(Closed) Dress came in, and I cried (not happy tears) – MAJOR Dress Regret

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@smcopp89:  you should post a pic(:

 

i had dress regret 2 and ended up getting another dress and i love my new dress which is orginally the dress i wanted even before i was engaged 

btw u can always try selling ur dress on preowneddresses.com thats where i have my first one

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@smcopp89:  I can relate to your post.  Long story short, when I was looking for my gown, I was frustrated that I was having a lot of trouble finding something of high quality that would look good on my plus-sized figure and still fall within my price range. When I finally found a beautiful designer gown in my price range that was 100-percent silk and had beautiful Swarovski crystal beading, I immediately called one of my bridesmaids and asked her to meet me at the bridal salon. I was feeling so much pressure to hurry up and order a gown (it was nine months before my wedding), and my bridesmaid said she liked the gown. Not wanting to risk having something happen — such as the dress being discontinued  — I hastily ordered the dress and put down the deposit that evening.

Once my gown arrived, I could tell that the style really was not made for someone with a very large, full bust.  Although the dress was ordered in a size large enough to fit me, the neckline and bodice of the dress just really were not conducive to someone with my particular figure. I was concerned and disappointed. However, because I was engaged once before — almost two decades earlier — and had canceled that wedding, I already owned a wedding dress that I had never worn. (It was MUCH too small for me 17 years later, so I couldn’t just decide to wear that one.) I simply could not bear the thought of having TWO, never-worn wedding gowns and spending even MORE money to purchase a third.  I also knew that I would not likely be able to find a dress in my size off the rack, and there really was no time at all at that point for me to order another gown.

So, I really just had to embrace the dress and accept it. When I look at some of my wedding pictures, I sometimes feel sad that I did not look the way I had hoped I would look, and I often wish I had purchased a different gown. However, when I feel “dress regret” (because of all of the beautiful gowns I see on TV and on WB), I try to remind myself that a) I found a gorgeous silk dress with beautiful bling and sparkle; b) that dress may really have been the best option for me, since I have no idea if I ever would have found a gown that I liked more and that fit better; c) if I HAD found such a dress, it likely would have cost two to four times what I paid for my gown, and that would not have been a wise (or, depending on how much it cost, even possible) choice for me; and d) I actually do love my gown in my wedding video. The bodice sparkles like crazy!

Finally, when I learned that my dress was discontinued just a couple of weeks after I ordered it, I began to think that maybe it really WAS meant for me afterall! 🙂

I’m sure your gown really is beautiful, and that, once you accessorize it with your shoes, veil/hairstyle/hair ornament, earrings, bracelet, etc., you will be gorgeous and will end up really liking your dress. 🙂

ETA:  Now that I see how long this comment actually is, perhaps I should not have bothered saying, “Long story short…” LOL!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww, I haven’t been in your position, but just wanted to say i hope it all gets better!  Chin up, it will all work out!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d love to see a picture!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

maybe you can make some inexpensive changes to the dress? I’m not sure what it looks like but if you post pics , I can try to make some suggestions. I would also see if you can sell it for as close to the money you paid for it , if you do sell it.

Post # 8
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Will the salon allow you to return it or exchange it for another dress??

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I want to see a picture. I bet it is beautiful, and we would love to give you some POSITIVE feedback. Hugs.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If I were you, I’d sell the dress and find one that you will absolutely love. I recently had dress regret because I fell in love with another dress. I tried it on and I nearly cried, so I bought the new one.

You need to do what is best for you!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It happened to me too, so I can relate.  I would try and sell it and get a dress you love, or attempt to alter it to make it into something you love!  Do you have any pics of it?  What is it exactly that you don’t like about it?

Alterations can make a major change!  I saw one where the bee completely put a different skirt on her dress because she wanted a tulle poufy one, instead of the flowy one.  Maybe something could make you love it again?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think its safe to say that we all want to see a picture of the dress! I’m sure its really pretty!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you post a picture?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had major dress regret after buying my dress. As much as I didn’t want to due to money, I ended up buying a different dress and selling the original one. It was hands down the best decision I made!! I bought one of the sample dresses from the dress place so they were able to give me a bug discount on it. I sold the original dress on weddingbee. I know money sucks (my fiance has been laid off for over a year!) and financially it probably wasn’t the best thing for me to buy a different dress but I would not hav been happy or felt good on my wedding day in the original dress! Good Luck!!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@smcopp89:  The dress itself, is not too popular

not popular?  Have you gotten negative comments from family/friends? 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Where did you get it? I had regret and I was able to exchange. I am so happy I did too.

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