Post # 46
Coming back to say I agree that even more normal aspects of “formal” and “cocktail attire” are widely open to interpretation now days. I went to wedding awhile back where they listed formal as the dresscode. So I wore a long gown because that is what I interpret as formal. Cocktail attire means shorter dresses and even sundresses where I live although I generally go towards more dressy over less dressy. Well I was like one of MAYBE 5 people at this larger wedding in a floor length dress. The bridal party and groomsmen were not even in floor length dresses or jackets/suits so I was annoyed that the bride and groom felt the need to dictate formal to me through their wedding website but their own bridal party wasn’t even in what I would consider formal attire
Post # 47
The Knot suggests putting in the lower right-hand corner of the invite. Shutterfly suggests putting it on an enclosure card. So, perhaps it’s not universally held in the US that the hosts should not indicate dress on a wedding invite?
Post # 48
Same, I agree it is normal in New Zealand to put dress code on invites. Everyone does it! In England the Duke & Duchess of Cambridge added it to their wedding invites. My Future Mother-In-Law is English & huge on etiquette & would never let us commit a faux pas. We added formal dress to our invites but in hindsight I reckon we should’ve added formal or morning dress.
I too find making bridesmaids pay for everything rude. Also showers. Any event just to ask for presents!
Post # 49
that’s so weird!! They should’ve said cocktail attire then. We have a formal dress code but the bridesmaids are all in floor length dresses & men in morning dress. Also our invites were super formal in black & white with a wax seal on the back.