Post # 1
I know that you shouldn’t put dress code information on an invitation, but here’s the (potential) situation.
My SO and I attended his couisin’s engagement party this afternoon, and the conversation led to what ours would be like. He stated that his mom or grandparents would host it at their family country club most likely. The club has a fairly strict dress code for men (non-baggy Jeans in good repair or better, collared shirt) and we were wondering how we would convey this. His cousin had hers at her parents’ home which is why it wasn’t an issue for today.
Post # 3
My cousin had her wedding reception at a country club. She did not put any information on the invitation or her website but had a link tot the venue. The dress code they had was similar to what you describe. Everyone outside of the wedding party wore cocktail dresses, suits or atleast a buttondown shirt and dress pants. As far as i know she didn’t need to clarify this with anyone. Wedding was at a church reception at 6pm at the country club so ettiquite would state cocktail attire and that’s how it went down. This was in early may of thus year. Unless you have people you are concerned about leave it alone otherwise id just put a link on the website to the countryclubs code. Or if no website could put country club attire on the invite / venue info insert and state required by the club if you want. If you want better put semi formal, formal, black tie, white tie etc. Ettiquett or not people are casual but many know how to dress for a wedding no one is going to take offense if you pleasantly hint or direct them tobavoid issues.
Post # 4
if you want, you can put it on the invitation.
we are putting “formal attire requested” very small at the bottom of the invite.
Post # 5
I don’t know your family or friends but if I saw the venue was a country club I’d know instantly that jeans and a hoodie aren’t right for this party & would probably stick to somethign that would be appropriate for work (but a little jazzier). I think if you really wanted to you could put “County Club attire requested” and I would think more along the lines of polo’s or buttons ups with khaki’s *(for men) and sundresses or skirts for women.
Post # 6
I didn’t have to tell people for the wedding because I knew my guests knew how to dress for weddings but for the rehearsal, I asked my girls to dress appropriately for a country club. Since most of the guys were golfing after the rehearsal, they were already wearing golf clothes.
Post # 7
I would think people would dress for the location without being told there is a dress code. I guess I could be wrong, but I can’t imagine someone wearing jeans to an engagement party at a nice place.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@pocketfox: I don’t think it’s etiquette-approved to put the dress code on your invitation. Lots of time I’ve seen suggesting putting it on your wedding website, but not the invites themselves. The invites are a clue in and of themselves of how fancy your wedding is going to be.
Also, I find it hard to believe that a country club suggests people wear jeans. I worked at one and they couldn’t wear jeans in our formal dining room, but if they showed up for a wedding in the ballroom we let it go as they were not club members. That only happened once or twice while I was there however, most people know not to wear jeans to a formal, country-club-esque wedding.
Post # 9
Thank you so much for your advice, everyone! I know a lot of people would see “country club” and understand, but we both have some family members who dress a little casually sometimes.
@mchitt329: They only allow jeans during lunch or brunch, which ours would be, knowing his family. The club is also a curling club, which is why they have that exception. They don’t allow jeans during dinner in the dining room.
Post # 10
Are you talking about an engagement party or the wedding reception?
You shouldn’t put attire on the wedding invitation, that would go on the reception card. BUT you can totally put it on an informal invitation for an engagement party. People need to know if there is a specific dress code.
Post # 11
@weddingnerd: It would be a brunch engagement party. Thank you for your advice!
Post # 12
We had a wedding website that had all the info listed, as we had a black tie optional wedding.