Post # 31
I believe the only reference to attire you can put on an invitation is if you are truly having a white tie or black tie event. On the website you can make mention of proper attire if your venue truly has a dress code (ie won’t let people in if they are wearing xyz), otherwise adults can dress themselves.
Post # 32
my aunt was in a very similar situation when she got married last summer. She had no worries that her side of the family would dress appropriately, but was very worried about her FI’s family because she’s been to a few weddings with them where they wore jeans and it wasn’t a casual dress event. The way they handled it was essentially having two sets of invitations made. One for his side of the family and one for hers. Everything about the invitations was exactly the same, except the ones they sent to his side of the family had something along the lines of “cocktail attire requested” printed on the bottom. If you’re worried about offending the people who know how to dress appropriately, you can always include the dress code info on the invitations that you send to your FIs side of the family and leave it off of the ones you send your family.
Hope this helps!!
Post # 33
j_jaye: Well we care because our venue has a formal dress code and they will not be allowed into the club house.
Post # 34
Actually I am a country girl and I am all for jeans at a wedding- if it was the rustic country style which I had considered. I decided to go for a more formal traditional route and I guess I am just going to hope my guests dress appropiately. Trust me I can relate to you my father doesn’t own a pair of dress pants let alone a tux or suit! I just want people to dress respectfully as I will be getting married in a church enviroment. I’m not expecting men to wear a suit or tux or women to wear long formal gowns. I think kahkis and a polo are appropriate, for a man. I will probably post it on the wedding site and hope the word spreads by word of mouth.