(Closed) Dress code wording on invitations….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can say cocktail attire, but you cannot dictate what color your guests wear. Sorry. You also really shouldn’t put your registry information anywhere near the invites. That information is spread by word of mouth. But I’m not sure how you’ll let people know if they don’t even know they’re going to a wedding.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s really easy to google your names and find where you’re registered.  I think if people want to give you a gift, they’ll figure it out.

To me, I don’t think that gifts are required for an engagement party (which is what you’re telling them they’re coming to) so I would find it off putting to find registry info on the invite.

And I agree with redheadem, you can put that it’s cocktail attire but not limit their colors.  For what it’s worth, my Mother-In-Law wore a black outfit to the wedding and thought she looked great.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@odjesb: If you’re not looking for advice on traditional etiquette, I don’t really know what to say. I’ve never heard of this situation. What kind of advice are you looking for?

@MUI831:  I agree that people won’t expect to bring a gift to an engagement party, so that would be weird to have it listed on the invitation.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

It isn’t about traditional or non-traditional.  It is about that it is always rude to direct your guests unsolicited to buy you presents.  If they solicit the info you can tell them, but it will never be polite to tell guests where you are registered before they ask for it.

One thing about having a surprise wedding is that there will simply be less gifts.  People don’t know where they are going and won’t have brought a wedding gift.  There is just no polite way around this.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@odjesb: I agree with the PPs that you can’t tell guests what color to wear.  But where I live, people bring gifts to engagement parties.  I don’t really see a problem adding the little slips of paper into the invites.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@odjesb: Bride and groom is a give away isn’t it? Or are you just putting those as place holders for your and his name?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

That sounds good! Well, even with it being bride and groom, everyone knows they are getting married so I would say it’s fine.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@odjesb: I think that if you put, due to this event being held so close to _____ (insert Holiday) we’d like to make this festive. Please try to dress cocktail attaire in _____ (insert colors here) so if it’s shades of green and white, put that.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would say something like ‘summer cocktail wear’, ‘colourful raceday attire’ or ‘st patricks green’. I wouldnt say ‘no black’ but I would make it clear I wanted people to look festive 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Bears-bub: ooooh Raceday atire. Very nice, granted in our family, saddly that would be pjs because they think of nascar.

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