Post # 1
hello bees 🙂
so now that i’ve picked out my wedding dress (rosa clara in ivory) and just ordered all my bridesmaids dresses (bill levkoff #537 in wine), my mom and Mother-In-Law have started to ask me about what they should wear, and i realized… i have no idea! is there a rule for coordinating colors for mothers of the bride and groom? are there colors they aren’t supposed to wear? are they supposed to match with bms or wedding colors? my mom was thinking about wearing a dark/deep blue dress, but had heard from one of her friends that the mother of the bride is supposed to wear a lighter/brighter color. my wedding will be on march 2, 2013 in njand the colors are wine and champagne. my flowers range from whites/ivories to yellows and blush tones with hints of green. any thoughts on what i should tell my mom and future MIL? i think they’re both planning on wearing full length dresses.
thank you in advance!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I haven’t heard any rules, the only thing I have heard is don’t pick out their dress for them, they can shop for themselves. Not saying you would do that 🙂
With your colors you might suggest that they go with a deeper jewel tone, they don’t need to match the girls, but if they did I don’t think it’d be a problem. How are the dads going to dress?
Post # 4
I don’t think they are any hard rules on what the mothers should wear. I let them pick what they wanted. My mom ended up choosing a sage/olive green and my Mother-In-Law chose a beige/tan dress. FWIW, my mom wore ivory at my sister’s wedding. I think if you don’t have strong preference, let them choose. But if you want them to coordinate with the rest of the wedding party maybe gold/copper/bronze dresses for them would coordinate nicely.
Post # 5
@missbomstar: There is an old saying that the Mother of the Groom is suppossed to “shut up, show up and wear beige.” I personally don’t agree with it but well it seems as though the MOG traditionally wears something in the beige family.
Honestly, it’s your wedding and you should do what you want! You said your colors are wine & champagne and that the flowers have yellow and blush tones. I think muted jewel tones would look beautiful with your color scheme just take into consideration what colors will look good on them.
Post # 6
My bridesmaids are wearing silver, and then the other colors are black, white and red.
I did NOT want my mother or Future Mother-In-Law matching the bridesmaids. My mother did this in the 1980’s and I didn’t want to do that.
Future Mother-In-Law is very very difficult and only wears white, black and red. Obviously she can’t wear white (she might have) so she had a red satin dress with black lace over it custom made.
My mother is very picky and wanted to wear silver- so we compromised. She found a beautiful dress that had silver in it, but it is navy chiffon.
My grandmother is wearing a gold lace top and black skirt.
So, my family won’t be coordinated but I don’t care.
Post # 7
I let them pick what they wanted, but I told them the wedding colors. Luckily they both picked colors that coordinate really nicely! My bridesmaids are in a deep plum, and my mom picked out a nice kind of royal-ish blue and my Future Mother-In-Law picked out two different dresses, one is a different shade of blue, one is a shade of purple. They’ll all look great in photos and not clash.
I don’t know what my step mom will wear but I imagine it will be something in kind of a dressy neutral color (tan/champagne, silver, etc) or a purple (she wears a lot of purple) or something equivalent. She looked fine at both of her daugthers’ weddings, so I’m not worrying about it too much. I sent my dad/her my mom’s dress so they don’t overlap but they have pretty different style anyway.
My mom was all “I get to pick my color first!” and then I was all, “Well, I’m not limiting what anyone wears as long as it isn’t white, so go ahead and pick, but I’m not telling anyone they can’t wear what you’re wearing.” My mom has some interesting ideas about weddings… including she was worried that she’d have to dance with Fiance during the mother/son dad/daughter dance??? Umm… no?
Post # 8
I told mine to wear what they feel they look best in.
Post # 9
There are no rules about MOB or Mother-In-Law dresses (except generally don’t wear white/ivory). I told both of mine to pick whatever they wanted. They stayed away from any purples (my BMs dresses were aubergine). My mom wore a very pretty sapphire dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a nice dark green. They were prefect for my November wedding (which I think calls for darker colors than say light pink or light blue since it’s winter-ish). I loved how all three dresses (BM, MOB and MIL) were jewel tones.
Post # 10
thank you for all of your comments! since my mom and future Mother-In-Law are the ones asking me what they should wear (and me not telling them… hehe) i think i’ll subtly drop complimentary hints that a beige/gold or a nice jewel tone would look great on them.
thank you, ladies! <3