Post # 1
I am getting married October 2009 and I just went to the bridal store today because my dress came in. I have been feeling a little anxious about my dress style for the last couple of months because I had a feeling that it was too big and overwhelming for my small size (I am about 5’1 and very petite). The dress is Sabelle from Maggie Sottero (http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=Sabelle&keywordType=any&page=0&pageSize=12&style=A3227). I still think it is really beautiful, with all the beadwork and lace and fabric flowers, but I am no longer sure that it complements me the way it should. The only part that I feel looks really good on me is the sweetheart neck and the tight waist. The bottom, however, is all puffy and very, VERY heavy. Someone please provide some advice. I am having second thoughts about it, and with four months to go before the wedding, I think I need to make a decision soon about whether to start shopping for a new dress. I also feel very guilty about doing this. The dress was fairly expensive at $1500 and I couldn’t dream of buying another dress without the possibility of selling this one to defray the cost. Would it be very difficult to sell this dress in a petite size (no alterations on it so far), and where would I go to sell it? I am taking a day off work to go back to the bridal shop on Wednesday to try the dress on again, and if necessary, to take it home with me for a few weeks before I make a decision. Still, this is very emotionally draining and I just want to find a dress that I will be happy and comfortable in.
Post # 3
Wow, that’s a tough one! I’d say … maybe you should talk to a good seamstress about your options with this dress? You could always try the WeddingBee classifieds, Craigslist and eBay to sell your dress if you decide it’s not for you. If you think you need another one, start shopping for it soon! Good luck … you deserve to be happy on your wedding day!
Post # 4
I think when you decided to get the dress, you got it for a reason right? That you loved it. Maybe you havent seen it in so long or have been looking at other dresses and changed your mind but you should definitely look at it again. Talk to the seamstress about your concerns, maybe stuff can be done to the dress that wont make it look so poofy anymore.
Post # 5
I’m about your size, and I think I understand what your concern is. The dress *is* very beautiful, though, and I think you can make it into something that won’t overwhelm you. I think you’re feeling overwhelmed b/c of the pick ups and draping. I tried on a San Patrick dress that was similar, and everyone said it looked amazing but I felt lost in the train. I did not end up buying the dress, but the consultant showed me how some of the pick ups could easily be removed. It definitely made the dress more streamlined. I think such a change could turn it into something that makes you look good…instead of just being a prety dress that you are wearing.
I’d say start by talking to a seamstress and see if it’s possible to streamline the train a bit. The beading is pretty, and if the draping were reduced then I don’t think it will feel too overwhelming.
Post # 6
I didn’t like my dress at first after I tried it on after I bought it. Well, I liked the dress, I just didn’t think it was great on ME. Eventually, I liked it again and loved it on my wedding day and got many many compliments. I too was ready to buy a new one before that though! I just didn’t have time though, and I’m glad I didn’t. There are just so many wedding dresses out there, the more you look at them, the more restless you can become about your decision. Just take a breather, think about it, defintiely try it on again, and see if wearing this dress would totally ruin your wedding day, or if you like it enough to wear it, even if you feel there could be better. Then just decide whether it’s worth the hassle of trying to sell this dress and finding a new one with enough time left over for alterations. Good luck. It’s definitely no fun when the dress search isn’t going your way.
Post # 7
do you have any pics of u in the dress? post em! hard to say without seeint you in it, but i have to agree with others that if u picked this dress originally, it must have been for a reason…
Post # 8
Yes, pics would definitely help 🙂
Post # 9
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous!!! If there is one day in your life that you can wear a big dress like this, it’s on your wedding day. You can wear a sheath or flowy dress on another occasion, but a dress like this? it’s a once in a lifetime chace. So if I were you I would keep the dress. I love the style, and I especially love the dropped waist and poofy bottom. Unless you have decided that don’t like it anymore, then I think you should reconsider. After all, you want to wear a dress that you really love on the big day. But if you are just insecure about the poofiness – don’t be. Wedding gowns are supposed to be big and poofy!! I like ths style, and I think you should go for it! 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for the advice. I am definitely going to think it over a little while longer before making a decision. I will post some pictures of me in it after I visit the dress shop in a few days and perhaps you can give me your opinions. I will ask about taking out some of the pick-ups so that it looks a little more streamlined. The seamstress also told me that once the dress is ironed it will be less poofy. I think the main problem is that I bought the dress because I liked it, not because it actually looked good on me.
Post # 11
I think if you like it, you’ll feel confident and it’ll look good on you. If buy a dress because it looks good on you, but it doesn’t have "that feeling" you’re going to be unhappy.
I would give it a little more time before you make the decision to try to sell it.