(Closed) Dress destroyed – I want the money to have it replaced

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yikes!!! I would say that yes at some point that they should have offered to have it fixed or replace. If this was an important event then the dog possible should have been put in another room or ouside as guest arrived. Not to mention you did ask inadvance if the dog would be present and they told you no.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  vandhaug2011.
Post # 4
931 posts
Busy bee

No. There’s always a risk when you wear expensive clothes. It sucks its wrecked but there’s nothing you can do about it. I would cut my losses To avoid family conflict. 


  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  Mrs.Z..
Post # 5
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Mrs.Z.:  Agreed.

Post # 6
3277 posts
Sugar bee

I think you definitely have a right to ask them to replace it.  If anyone’s pet destroys anything they are obligated to replace it.  They must be in control of their animal at all times, and it certainly doesn’t seem like they were.

If they say no, then it’s up to you how much you want to push the issue, and how much family drama are you willing to stir up.

What does Mother-In-Law say?  Why does she allow an uncontrolled and dirty dog into her home, at an event where guests would wear silk dresses?

Post # 8
47 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club

Wow! I LOVE pets, (I have a cat and Fiance has a dog) but if we’re having a special event at home with guests and we know the pets will be flustered with by the noise we place them in the basement.

As a pet owner you MUST take responsibity specially when you know the pet tends to missbehave.  How about if the dog would’ve bitten you or scratched you or hurt you in any way?!

I watch Judge Judy all the time and each time a pet destroys propery or hurts a humar or another animal the owner MUST replace/pay for it, specially if the dog was not on a leash!

This reminds me of the episode on SATC when Carrie goes to a party and another guest steals her expensive shoes and she asks the host to pay for them, it is a VERY uncomfortable conversation but you are on your right to ask them to replace the dress.

Good luck.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  SweetSweetB.
Post # 9
3277 posts
Sugar bee

Whether you asked or not is irrelevant.  They were not in control of their animal and it damaged your property.

But I would also be declining invitations to MIL’s for a while, as a host is responsible for making sure that guests are comfortable.  It seems she would rather risk not upsetting BIL/SIL, then ensuring guests have a safe and enjoyable time.  That isn’t a host I’d be wanting to spend much time with.

I do not understand or believe in the point that “that’s the risk you take when you wear nice things” argument.  By that logic, at your wedding, people can just pour their red wine all over your dress, because hey, that’s the risk you take.


Post # 12
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Ugg, that’s frustrating. Can they afford to pay for your dress or will they be shocked at how much you spent? I think you have every right to approach them about it. I would just carefully consider how you approach the subject since they may be defensive, even if they do truly feel bad. While paying for your dress would be the right thing to do, you may have to let it go for the sake of maintaining a civil relationship.

Post # 14
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Are they financially well off?  Before you ask them to cover it, ask yourself that first.  If not, instead of asking them to cover the cost I would just let them know that the dress cost you $400, you had checked first to make sure they weren’t bringing him, and that you are upset that they didn’t at least let you know.  I personally would tell them that you forgive them (and the cost), but that you would appreciate it if in the future they would make it clear on whether or not they are bringing their pet.  I personally wouldn’t ask him to cover the cost unless they could easily do so.

Post # 15
927 posts
Busy bee

While technically they probably owe you, if it were me I wouldn’t push it. I’d be pissed that they went back on their word about not taking the dog and then didn’t let you know. I would be pushing them to commit to not having the dog unrestrained in other people’s houses. 

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