(Closed) Dress Dilemma

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Do I wear the wedding dress...
    for both the church ceremony and the garden : (5 votes)
    36 %
    just the garden ceremony, buy another one for the church : (9 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
    7081 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Lily- I would love to help you.  Do you have pictures of the dresses and/or venue?  That might get you some more responses.

    In a generic sense, both days seem like fancy wedding days to me now.  You might be one of those people who needs to be a genuine 2 dress bride… with 2 spectacular wedding dresses, though if I was trying to figure out when to wear a more low key dress, I would probably think the outdoor venue, unless it was a formal garden.

    Even as I said that, though, I hedged because I know you got *your* dress for the special day that you planned in the garden.

    Maybe you can find a really nice dress used from Once Wed or Classifieds to use as your church dress?

    Post # 5
    484 posts
    Helper bee


    I think its totally appropriate for the church if that’s what you want. Perhaps add a shawl or bolero to cover your shoulders (some churches require that) to mix it up a bit.

    However, if keeping this dress for your dream wedding day is important to you I don’t see anything wrong with getting another dress. There was a post on here with some short dresses that I think would be perfect for this type of occasion. Or a gorgous suit ala Carrie from SATC would totally work as well. 

    What are you doing after the Church ceremony? Going to dinner? I think that would also help us help you make a decision.

    Post # 6
    33 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I loved the dress you are wearing on the picture, but i should say yes, wear 2 dresses.

    Post # 7
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2007

    I think you should make the two distinct. To me, the lace dress is romantic in an airy, flowy way that is perfect for a garden wedding. I actually would find it out of place in a church wedding if the church wedding isn’t followed by a garden-style reception (although it can be done, because really, who pays attention to how much the dress matches the reception? I just pay attention to how beautiful the bride is).

    The second dress doesn’t have to be more low-key. Perhaps for the church ceremony, your dress could be shorter but made of more formal material (silk satin, taffeta, etc), and you can dress it up with the right accessories and a beautiful bouquet? Take Mrs. Onion’s dress on short dress brides. (http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/02/16/short-dress-brides/). None of these gowns are particularly informal, they’re just different. If you pick one that is different enough in style from your gorgeous Jim Hjelm, you won’t lose the "first look" effect with your fiance. Good luck!!

    Post # 8
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    That is quite a gorgeous dress!

    I personally like the idea of keeping that dress for your garden wedding and getting a "short" dress (with a cute pair of heels, of course) for the church wedding. Then, if you go out to dinner/where ever after the church wedding, you won’t have to worry about getting your dress dirty before the other wedding.

    Post # 9
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I love the idea of a gorgeous white suit for the church. Save your gorgeous lace dress for your actual garden ceremony.

    Post # 10
    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Since you are getting married at a catholic church why not chose a dress that is more covered up and a little more simple.

     BTW: Westbury Manor is gorgeous and the service is amazing.

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