(Closed) dress dilemma

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Hey! well, how about you try selling the moonlight on Ebay and get the one you want and then sacrifice something else if you don’t have the budget liiikkkkeeee invites, cake, something has to be less important than the dress….jajaja….i know it’s hard to decide, but you should feel sure of the dress, that’s what you’ll be wearing the whole night and will be on pics forever…..good luck!

Post # 4
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30 posts
Newbee

For me, it would depend on the price difference and whether the Mila/Lia is really THAT much better than the Moonlight.  Personally, I think the Moonlight is a beautiful dress and it looks to be similar in shape to the Mila/Lia. If its flattering on you, I would go with it.

For me, I fell in love with a dress way out of my price range and "settled" for something that I liked but didn’t love.  My rationale at the time was that I would feel guilty having spent so much on a dress that I wouldn’t even enjoy it.  Fast forward a few months later, I do love my dress and am SO glad that i didn’t spend a fortune on it. 

That said, the dress is a really really important piece of the wedding so if you do feel that the cost is worth it, then verovero’s suggestion is a great one!  good luck!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Check the bee classifieds; someone is selling the Melissa Sweet Lia dress. 

My dress was the most important thing to me, and the biggest single expense in our wedding budget.  I bought a Priscilla of Boston dress and spent about $6K before alterations.  Sometimes I feel a little guilty, but this is my ONE DAY TO ROCK OUT.  So I had to get my dream dress.

I say, try to sell the other dress on eBay, and then check classifieds and craig’s list for posting of your dream dress.  If that doesn’t work, I would just buy the dress you love.  You want to look and feel your best.  If you’re already feeling like you should’ve bought the Lia or Mila, you should definitely go with your gut.  I actually tried both of those dresses on, and they are stunning.  My issue was my booty wouldn’t cooperate in either.  Way too much junk in the trunk;)

Whatever you decide, I’m sure you’ll be a lovely bride.  Congats and good luck to you. 

Post # 6
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236 posts
Helper bee

If you can find your Melissa Sweet dress online, at a sample sale, or on ebay then I say go for it and sell the other dress on ebay or the boards.  You should feel perfect on your day and have no regrets.

Post # 7
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16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had the same dilemma.  I bought a dress at David’s Bridal my first trip out.  I kept thinking and kept being told that the price was great and that it was only one day.  In a few days, I am going to get measured for the Maggie Sottero Capri Royale dress which is what I wanted.  The new dress is still several hundred dollars less than what I thought I would be spending, so I got lucky.  Although a wedding IS only one day, it is still YOUR day and you should be utterly happy.  Save money somewhere else.  DIY your invites, centerpieces, buy less flowers, whatever it will take for you to feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.  You do not want to look back at your wedding pictures and regret your choice.  I say go for it and sell the first dress.  It will work out.  Good luck!!!

Post # 8
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4 posts
Wannabee

I was kinda in the same boat. I loved a Melissa Sweet dress (and still do) but  I didnt want to spend that much money on a dress. Anyway, I found a dress I like, maybe love and still regret how much I spent. To get to the point, buy the dress if it will make you happy. It is one day and if you dont feel 100% about the dress you have just try and sell it. If it is way out of your budget, think twice or you can always sell it in the end. Good Luck.

Post # 9
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I am going to play devil’s advocate here. Honestly, I bought my dream dress,and while I still love it, it has defintiely cut down on my ability to spend other places that I might want to. At $5k before alterations, sometimes I feel a little silly for spending that much on a dress that I will wear one day(though I did and can understand why someone would). That being said, I think there are 3 factors to consider. #1-How much do you really love the Melissa Sweet Dress? #2-Are you able to recoup some of what you have already spent/find the Lia for a discounted price? #3-Where will you have to cut back if you buy your dream dress/are you willing to do that? Good luck, and rest assured you will look gorgeous no matter which dress you choose:)

Post # 10
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80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree with orangepeels – it looks like the Melissa Sweet is similar to your dress (which is gorgeous, by the way). I fell in love with a Badgley Mischka, but then found a Casablanca gown that was just as special. Now I can’t imagine getting married in anything else. (And I only spent 750 bucks on it, instead of 5,000!)

That said, if you really don’t feel like your dress is THE ONE, maybe you should consider starting over and looking at other designers. There are a lot of similar silhouettes out there and you could avoid the pricetag on the Melissa Sweet. Have you looked at Maggie Sottero? I have a friend who wore a dress by her that looked similar to yours, and she only spent $1000.

Either way, don’t worry! You’ll have the bridal glow, which is the most beautiful thing you can possibly wear on your wedding day. And nobody’s going to be looking at the tag in the back of your dress. 🙂

Post # 11
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I bought a dress which I loved and still love to this day.  However, I felt guilty, and still do, for spending almost twice as much as I had wanted to on a dress.   My wedding was great and the dress was fabulous, but in retrospect, I wish I’d looked harder or looked into used dresses.  I’m sure I could have found something else I liked that was more within my budget and loved it just as much.

Post # 15
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80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Congratulations, miss! I can tell you’re feeling so much better about the new dress!

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