Post # 1
Ok so here is my story. I am getting married in November 2015. I already bought my dress. I know, it may be early but I am so in love with it.
Now, here is the problem. I was talking with my fiancès good friends wife to be. She is getting married July of 2014. She was describing the dress to me that she really WANTS. All in all, its MY dress!! I told her I purchased it and showed her a picture of me in it. Same designer, same style number, same store purchased. She said she tried on many more and only went back to that one.
My fiancè is part of his wedding party. Our weddings are 1.5 years apart. What if she buys the same dress? Yes, only 10 or so people will see us both in it (mutual friends), but its going to seem like I copied her!
Its MY dress! What are the odds? I dont want my fiancè seeing the dress at all. He doesnt think its such a big deal. I do.
Thoughts? Suggestions? Please help. Thank you.
Post # 3
Honestly, guys have terrible memories for these things, he probably won’t even remember it’s the same dress. I’m also sure he will love it 100000x more one you! The guests probably won’t remember either…. if you’re that worried about it, maybe change the dress a teeny tiny bit… add a sash or straps or take them away, make it fuller by adding a petticoat or something along those lines. Don’t stress too much about it 🙂
Post # 4
@Catherine16: 1) It will look totally different on you.
2) Your wedding is a long way off; you may end up changing your mind and finding another dress you love more.
3) Your weddings are, as you say, 1.5 years apart. Nobody’s going to remember her dress by the time your wedding happens; certainly they won’t remember it clearly enough to see you in your dress and say, “Isn’t that the same dress that X wore?”
(Seriously, even I, who am on this forum night and day planning my wedding, can’t tell half these dresses apart.)
You can’t sweat this — it’s her right to decide to wear whatever dress she wants. If that’s also still your dream dress when your wedding rolls around, you’ll just have to reflect hard on the list above!
Post # 5
@Catherine16: I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again. My cousins got married the same summer, bought and wore the same dress, and I didn’t know it until my aunt mentioned it at my daughter’s wedding many years later! I don’t think anyone noticed except the brides and their moms.
Unless you look like twins and wear your hair the same, same jewelry, same shoes, I am going to bet you look very different. If you look at brides here on WB, wearing the same dress, you will see that women who buy the same dress look very different.
Post # 6
Firstly, to many people a wedding dress can be described in one word: “white”. Some go a bit futher: strapless, ruffles, lace etc. But no one will remember the dress, how many times on SYTTD does the bride swear blind that the store got it wrong and the one they ordered 2 years out isn’t theres? If brides can forget, then those 10 guests that will see both definitely will. Especially after 18 months!
Secondly, and most importantly, people will be looking at YOU and not the dress. You will be beautiful in your own right and will look totally different from this friend.
If you love the dress, don’t second guess. You’ll probably live to regret it! 🙂
Post # 7
What does the dress look like? Unless it’s one of those Pnina Tornai sexy-pirate-wench dresses that you’d see once and never forget, I’m going to guess the only two people in the room who notice are you and the other bride. But I can absolutely understand why you’d feel crummy about it, and I can also understand why the other bride wouldn’t want to switch dresses just because you bought yourself. Hey if you’re close to the same size you could find some silver lining in the situation by just buying one and paying half the cost!