(Closed) Dress Dilemma…Yes AGAIN. So Embarrassed!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do?
    Stop obsessing and go with the original gown : (9 votes)
    50 %
    Try on the preowned gown and see if you love it : (4 votes)
    22 %
    Find another dress : (5 votes)
    28 %

    18 votes

    • Post # 1
    Member
    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Hi ladies,

    So what do you do when your entire vision of how you see yourself looking on your wedding day suddenly changes? You see an image of a dress you would have never thought you would have loved, and suddenly it becomes your dream dress. You see yourself getting pictures taken in it, dancing in it, walking down the aisle in it. But you’ve never actually tried this style gown on!!!

    This is what has happened to me. I am naturally an indecisive person. I never thought this would plague me for my wedding gown though. I researched gowns for months until I finally went shopping and put a deposit down in the third boutique I went to…then went back two days later and switched my deposit to my current gown…

    As you can see from my previous posts. I have struggled with dress regret. Well as time goes by and I wait for my dress to come in next month, it is just getting worse and worse. I have looked at images of other brides in my gown countless times. I have looked at brides in similar gowns and all I can think about is how I want to change my dress. My dress is all I think about. I obsess over it. My fiance asks me what is wrong and I don’t want to tell him. I am embarrassed that I am letting this control me.

    I’ve flipflopped between making my gown a sweatheart neckline, altering the back to be a deep V, adding sleeves, buying a different bolero, finding the perfect belt…then I started to realize. Why do I want to change this gown so much? Why I can’t be excited about it the way it is?

    I’m seriously considering buying a preowned gown and forfeiting my $840.00 deposit…I have a bit of motivation for this as well because if I can find a dress that is close to my size and height I will save money!!

    My dress current dress will set me back $1785.00…without alterations! I have been quoted $250 for the hem, $150 to take the gown in and about $100 to bustle! So my dress will set me back about $2,310 w/ tax!!!! My budget was $2000…

    The dresses I am now obsessing over are two Maggie Sottero gowns. The Tabrett Lynette and Georgina… I love the detailing at the neckline…yes a crumb catcher! I think it would fit my enchanted christmas theme.

    I have found a dress that a bride is selling in my town for $500. She is 3/4inch shorter than me, but she’s tiny!!!! She’s a size 2/4 and I am a size 6/8 (my hips run around as a size 10…). Should I risk it? Try it on? See if I love it as much as the pictures? I might still save money if I have to let the dress out a bit..My bust and waist are rather small though my hips ARE HUGE. I measure 33, 27, 40. The sellers measurements are 32, 26.5, 36.

    What do you ladies think? Is it easy to forfeit a deposit?

    Thanks

    Here is the dresses I’m considering
    Maggie Sottero Tabrett Lynette

    Maggie Sottero Georgina

    Post # 3
    Member
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hm I don’t know much about dresses but I would think that might be too much of a size difference especially since it’s fitted in the hips

    Post # 4
    Member
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think your dress is very pretty!! I like these dresses too! I wouldn’t risk trying to get into a size 2/4.  Most likely won’t happen.  I say keep your current dress.  It’s beautiful!! I don’t like the bunchy stuff at the top of these dresses, too trendy for me.

    Post # 5
    Member
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 1993

    I wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would say if you were going several sizes bigger than you are, then it should be ok.  But going several sizes smaller – not possible.  You’re probably end up running into the same high alterations cost or even higher.  Have you talked to the salon to see if they’ll take your deposit and order a different dress for you?

    Post # 7
    Member
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    There is a huge difference between size 2/4 and a size 6/8.  I’m a size 10/12.  When I went to try on a sample size 8 (it’s a sample so its obv stretched out a little) it was just not happening!  I wouldn’t risk it if I were you.  It’s a lot easier to take a dress in then having to let it out.  I could only imagine what the alterations cost would be to let a size 4 gown out to be a 6 … that is if it’s even possible to do without altering the look of the dress.

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