(Closed) Dress Disappointment?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Deedee! I was totally where you are the week or so before my wedding! I made the tragic mistake of purchasing my dress a size smaller in anticipation of  all the weight I was going to loose. Well, I didn’t loose the weight and when my dress came in, it need to be altered to fit. I just wasn’t happy with it and never got that WOW factor that I had gotten the day I purchased it. I seriously considered going out and purchasing a new dress, but decided against it because of lack of funds. I did take it and bought a crinnoline (sp?) to go under it which helped a lot.

The truth is, when I put it on the day of the wedding, I still get goose bumps! Not because it was the dress of my dreams, but because I knew that putting on that dress was one of the first steps towards marrying the love of my life. Yes, maybe it didn’t give me that WOW factor I felt I was "supposed" to have but it was comfortable, moved easily, I had a cardigan I’d planned to wear with it for the reception that fixed some of the "ill-fitting issues", it ended up looking great in the pictures and my husband loved it! All in all, I have no regrets. Good luck!

You’ll be surprised how little it will bother you when the day comes around.

Post # 4
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If it’s something little that seems huge to you, you’re just going to have to let it go.

I bought a sample dress from a couture dress designer. But because it wasn’t made to my specifications and it was mermaid-shaped, it needed a lot of alternations, which she offered free of charge. At the time, saving money was a priority, but only later did I realize, that perhaps, skimping so much on my WEDDING DRESS, was not the wisest idea.

She put in hours and hours altering the dress to fit me, but in the end, it didn’t fit as smoothly as I imagined. My wedding day was fantastic and yes, when I look at pics now, I noticed the bunching and the creases, but no one else did. I just had to let it go. It doesn’t change who you are marrying and why.

Post # 5
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16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am not getting married very soon, but made a huge mistake buying my dress.  I am now in the process of selling the dress that I have and buying another one, but I still have 11 months left.  I completely agree with Bonniebelle101.  Think of what the dress MEANS and let that carry you through.  Once you’re in it with your makeup and jewelry and bouquet, you’ll feel wonderful.  Think that you’re marrying your best friend, your soul mate and concentrate on the more important things.  I’m sorry you feel that way.  I wish you the very best of luck!

Post # 6
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

As much as I still love the look of my dress, I have definitely been going through the same feelings of "I wish I had bought a different dress." It’s more of a wear problem that I’m having because the dress sags about 1/2" as I wear it and makes the bottom drag on the ground (and I fear I’ll trip and tear it). I can’t hem or alter the dress anymore because I bought something with an embroidery pattern. The other prolem is that the satin and chiffon are two layers and my french bustle only holds the satin later. The chiffon droops everywhere and looks a mess unless a ton of pins are used to tuck it under the bustle (a huge amoung of extra time involved).

I’m three weeks away from my wedding, so I’ve had a bit of time to ask around about how to to try and fix the problem. I’ve bought a corset bra and velcro to hold up the dress and ordered some espadrille platform shoes to add height. There’s nothing I can do about the bustle other than pin it like the seamstress advised. I’ve got my fingers crossed that everything will be fine.

I had a friend who loved her dress when she bought it. Nine months later, she disliked the dress but knew there was no time to change it. When she looks back, she knows it looks nice and is very happy with all the wedding photos. I don’t get the sense it was perfect, but half the pictures are far enough away that any details that bothered her at the time weren’t noticeable in the long run.

Not sure what it is you’re unhappy about, but just remember that what bothers you will likely go unnoticed by everyone else.

Post # 7
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7 posts
Newbee

You mentioned disappointed in the way it fits…can you still take to a seamstress to work on the fit issues?

Post # 8
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I know this isn’t going to help you much, but I wanted to tell you that I felt that way, too about the 1st dress I bought (for a previous engagement). I loved it on the hanger, hated it on myself. I was having such a hard time grappling with those dissatisfied feelings that I ended up shelling out $1000 at the last minute for another TWO dresses. I am a firm believer that your wedding day is the ONE day you want to feel and look your best. I knew that if I felt uncomfortable with the way my dress was fitting me, that it would show all day. I’d probably look so miserable in pictures and just have an all-around "blah" feeling about it.

 

If you can, I’d take it to seamstress and see what they could do about the fit. Or, if possible, add a pretty sash or brooch, or something to make your dress feel a little more "finished" or "special".

 

(on the practical side, I like to think that had I worn the dress I hated, it wouldn’t have mattered because I was marrying my best friend and THAT feeling would trump any other on that day…just something to maybe make you feel better)

Post # 9
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’m also 10 days away…I never had that wow factor with my dress.  I’ve decided that it doesn’t matter.  I look good in the dress even if I don’t love it.  I searched for so long that I figured I would never have that "its the one" moment.  I settled for something in my price range that was flattering to my figure.  Honestly, does it really matter in the end?  Probably not, but only you can decide.

Post # 10
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I empathize – I recently got engaged and thought dress shopping would be magical..  but..  I am really not getitng that feeling.  I have to agree with some of the other ladies though – I am sure even if he dress isn’t your dream dress.. the day will still be amazing  (-:

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