What a 24 hours! So I tried on the dress they made by mistake. It’s gorgeous but just not my style. I feel like it shows my stomach too much. I started (internally) freaking out at the dress shop. Since I am partially plus sized (my bust is large, it’s about an 18 in bridal, the rest of me is about a bridal 12-14) I tried on some stock dresses she had because she said “why don’t you let me get the original dress rushed, it will be shipped by Aug 10 and you can have a backup just in case”. I couldn’t find a single one that fit plus I liked. I have body image issues and even though I just lost another 45 lbs (I’ve lost almost 100 total) I still feel huge and very self conscious. Especially with strapless.
So my only choices were to demand a refund, or to take the chance and trust that they would ship the dress by Aug 10 and then hope it doesn’t get lost in the shipping and that they can do all the alterations for my wedding on Aug 25. They also offered free alterations (which were capped at $350).
I wasn’t comfortable with that, because first of all my trust in all of them is blown (they say it’s Casablanca’s error and showed me a return authorization from Casablanca allowing them to send it back for a refund so I guess that Casablanca screwed up); and second I just have so much going on between the wedding, family stuff and our roof with a 40 ft hole that I just couldn’t deal with it. I left it up in the air and headed over to another bridal salon that carried some plus sizes.
I went into the other shop and tried a couple dresses on and then found a dress I really love! I had my fingers crossed that they could get it in an 18 to account for my bust and in white, because I tried on a 16 in ivory–it was close but I couldn’t zip up the top 2″. I couldn’t believe it when I found out they have ONE in stock in California in 18, white…but I still went home and slept on it. The shop owner told me to call dress shop #1 to see if they would refund my money.
I went outside to call but on my way out, one of the ladies that work there pulled me aside and said that their owner called the owner of store #1 (small community, I guess they know each other) and verified my “story” I guess, and found out that they would give me a refund. I was relieved to hear it, long story a little shorter–I called, they agreed…
Fast forward to today, I went and they refunded all my deposits (almost $1000). I am still losing a little money because I bought a custom corset that now won’t fit the new dress, and of course all the time and effort but oh well. Then I went to shop #2 and tried on the other dress and still loved it. So I bought it! Shipping tomorrow from California, I should have it by Monday or so and they said they will do my alterations right away. Got my petticoat too. So, fingers crossed that nothing else goes wrong!!
Oh, here are a couple cell pics of my new dress 🙂
Like I said I couldn’t zip it so my arms are behind me holding it, and the top looks a little funny.
In the end, it’s only a dress, I guess! The lady said, “wow you are amazingly calm about this” and I just said, “well getting upset won’t really help me right now will it?”. *fingers crossed*