(Closed) Dress Disaster on Wedding Day

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think I would have been upset after seeing the pictures too. I am sorry you didnt have someone who could make your dress look as perfect as you wanted it. My gut says it may not be that bad if no one said anything to you. DO you have picture you could post so we can see what it ended up looking like?

I dont htink this is a bad omen for your wedding people make mistakes and if this is the only thing that went wrong on your wedding day I think you are doing pretty well. I wish you woul dhave posted before the wedding so I or somone else could have givne you better preventitive advice on what to do.

Post # 4
886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is very unfortunate all that had to happen to you on your wedding day. But I think that we (all of us) tend to overemphasize the things that go wrong and forget all the things that went right. Keep in mind the big picture, that you married the man you love and that you have your whole lives ahead of you. One relatively small blunder with your dress is not going to determine the rest of your life with your now husband. I was nitpicking all sorts of things with my dress. But I seem to be the only person who notices it in the photos. And if not nitpicking the dress, nitpicking other things about the wedding. I promise that in the coming years your dress malfunction will be less and less important. Hope you feel better.

Post # 5
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s not a bad omen, by any means.

But I totally understand where you are coming from and why you are upset. I love the way the corset/lace up dresses look too and had one for my wedding day. Because I don’t live near family or friends, no one was able to come to the bridal shop and learn how to lace up the dress. On my wedding day, I don’t think mine was as bad as what you describe since the modesty panel was in place. But it wasn’t pulled into the V-shape, the laces were twisted and it didn’t look right. I tried to get my sister and friend to adjust it, but they insisted it was fine and walked away. I also hate how all of the photos of me from the back look because of it.

It was a mistake. Instead of focusing on what went wrong try and focus on all of the good time that you have ahead! 🙂


Post # 6
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree, it’s not a bad omen, just a little hiccup to your day. If you feel really bad about it, why not schedule a bridal shoot, so you can have pictures of the dress done properly?

If you have a good photographer, they’ve witnessed so many brides putting on their dress, they can usually lend a hand.


Post # 7
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Im so sorry this happened to you. I know how one small thing can tarnish your memory of the entire day. Please keep in mind that your guests and your husband probably only noticed how beautiful and happy you looked that day. This is why no one noticed your dress wasn’t perfect. 

When I was younger and I would ask my dad if something minor on my outfit was ok (do these shoes look ok?? etc), he would always say to me “if they’re looking at your feet, you’re doing something wrong.” That’s how you should feel about you back. No one was looking at your back because they were only noticing your face and smile.

Also, if you have a good photograher, maybe ask them to photoshop your modesty panel all the way closed in the final pictures. That way when you look at your album, this won’t be something you notice, and you’ll probably slowly forget it was even an issue over time.

My dad missed a button on his shirt, and all of the pictures of him had a man-boob sticking out. My photographer photoshopped his shirt closed, and now I don’t even notice it when I look at pictures.

Post # 8
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@CanAmBride Sorry if it is a sensitive subject, but I couldn’t help but laugh at the man-boob story.

I have a corset-back dress and I would be so upset too! But like PPs I don’t believe it is a “bad sign” or what have you. Sometimes crap just happens.

I think previous suggestions of judicious use of Photoshop and possibly a separate bridal portrait session are excellent ideas!

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