Post # 1
I need help! I am normally a very emotional person. I cry at the drop of a hat. So, I expected to have that ahha, weepy, this is my dress moment … buuut … it never came. Ive tried on so many dresses. Most of them were an immediate no way. My wedding theme is old holywood vintage glam with lace, pearls and bling. The dress I ordered today is perfect! It has that old hollywood feel. I look beautiful, but I feel totally disconnected from this process. I have absolutely Zero emotional attachment to my wedding dress. To me is just another dress, yes for the most special occasion of my whole life, but it’s just a dress. I didn’t cry, or have that “bridal” moment like all the girls on TLC. Now, I’m at home weeping, and being so emotional about the fact that I’m not emotional towards my wedding dress. Oh brother! I don’t know if it’s because I have body image issues or I am putting too much pressure on myself to be super prefect? I honestly feel like I could try on every dress in the whole world and still would never have that 100% confident “this is my dress” moment. Have any of you had this experience or have any advice?
Post # 3
Simply gorgous! Reality shows give a warped view on “reality”. People that cry at the dress are far fewer than the TLC shows. Most are like you, it’s just a dress. As mentioned in previous posts, my dress shopping was less than ideal. I cried at two stores, not from “he pretty dress and finally feeling like a bride”. I cried out of frustration and the ridiculous mark up, how I looked crap in everything but manage to look decent in everyday dresses. You look stunning. And it is normal to have doubts and not have the big emotional moment. Maybe not so normal tearing up at a shop in front of the Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law while in a wedding dress. I felt, still feel, pretty dumb
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2015 - Santa Barbara Courthouse & Nectar
Your dress is beautiful! I didn’t have the emotional crying with my dress either, and the wedding dress shows definitely don’t help if you didn’t have that type of moment. Don’t stress about it, though. Come wedding day, you will know it is the perfect wedding dress!
Post # 5
OP… Do not worry… I started dress shopping for myself over one year ago for an elopement dress. I felt very disconnected from the entire process and almost ‘business like.’ But, whatever. I did find my dress and I am actually very happy with it, its very beautiful and perfect.
Post # 6
Your dress is beautiful on you and fits your theme perfectly.
Post # 7
I loved my dress, but I didn’t cry. (At least not until I went to pay. Haha!)
Your dress is wonderful.
Post # 8
You look gorgeous. I didn’t cry when I tried on my dress either. I didn’t really have a “this is the one” moment either. I just felt that it was a beautiful dress, it was perfect for our Sunday morning wedding, and I loved it. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to be confident. I’m sure there will be plenty of emotion to spare on your wedding day.
Post # 9
yep thats how i felt too. it was like ok great, this one looks nice on me, is a good price and ticks all the boxes. then i just went and got it! no crying no nothing.
Post # 10
oh and congrats on finding a dress that looks gorgeous on you! yay!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
ladylisasmiles: I ended up changing my mind and getting a second dress. The dress you have chosen is lovely! That being said, YOU have to love it too. Keep a casual eye out for something else. If you stumble upon something that makes you light up inside, then go for it! No shame in it. If not, oh well, you still have a pretty wedding dress!
Post # 12
As a fellow weeper (seriously, I cry so easily), I didn’t have a moment either. I asked my saleslady if that’s normal and she said “in my 40 years of working here I’ve only seen a handful of brides cry”. I agree with theatrejulia, reality shows have totally warped what the process is actually like
Post # 13
ladylisasmiles: I never got the “WOW” moment either. But, you look STUNNING in that dress, its beautiful! Very Old Hollywood
Post # 14
I didn’t shed a tear! I knew it was the dress because I didn’t want to take it off! For all the other dresses I kept saying “let’s try the next one…”
Post # 15
Thanks ladies for all of your encouragements! It had really helped ease my worries!