(Closed) Dress Disconnect

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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1353 posts
Bumble bee

ladylisasmiles:  You look stunning!

I didn’t have an emotional moment either. I was deciding between two dresses, and when I finally chose “the one”, I just stood in front of the mirror in a daze for what felt like an hour. I was thinking “wow, I look like a bride. Am I a bride? Why I am wearing a white dress? I look weird in a white dress – I need to go put my dress pants back on.” Meanwhile the sales lady and my mom were running around putting hairpieces and veils on me.

I love my dress. But I was never one to fantasize about my wedding dress – I just want to marry my Fiance. I have no emotional connection to it beyond an artistic appreciation for the gorgeous materials and design, and I don’t think I’ll have any problem selling it after the wedding.

Post # 17
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903 posts
Busy bee

My dress grew on me slowly. At first I knew it met everything I wanted ina dress, but it was wrinkled so I had to get it steamed. Once I tried it on after it was steamed I started to feel something for it, but still just saw it as a beautiful dress. But now I picture myself wearing it on my wedding day and feeling beautiful in it, and I start to feel love for it.. for how it will make me feel on my wedding day.

Post # 18
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ladylisasmiles:  I have a bridal store and have seen many different reactions but crying is not for everyone. Sometimes a bride just tries too many and becomes overwhelmed and unexcited. Or girls can be practical and analytical rather than emotional. Expecting ‘the moment’ or a certain feeling doesn’t happen for everyone and that’s ok. As long as there’s a big smile and you linger a little longer in that dress, believe it or not that is the moment.

Post # 19
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1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I love your dress.  It’s one I’m considering as well.  I don’t anticipate getting “that feeling either.”  The first time I shopped I was really disappointed with what I tried on.  The second time I liked almost everything, but I still didn’t get emotional.  I think it’s overhyped!

Post # 20
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

ladylisasmiles:  I LOVE the dress and you look stunning in it! This dress was actually in my top 2… its so elegant and the lace is gorgeous.

I also tried on several dresses (I probably went to 7 different shops and tried on around 40 dresses), and never had “that feeling” in any of them. I also cried out of frustration. This entire process is very overwhelming and you get burned out quick. I found several dresses that I really liked, especially this Justin Alexander one! While I do love the one that I chose I didn’t get emotional in it. I think I will finally have that moment on my wedding day: when the dress fits perfectly, hair and makeup are done, and I am ready to walk down the aisle!

Post # 21
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

ladylisasmiles:  you look stunning!!! I also want a vintage, old Hollywood glam wedding! I think your dress fits perfect with that theme!! I didn’t have the emotional “this is it” moment either with mine but I couldn’t stop smiling and looking at myself in the mirror. I agree with everyone that “Say Yes to the Dress” creates a false impression of what dress shopping is really like. 

Post # 22
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158 posts
Blushing bee

ladylisasmiles:  You look so gorgeous in that dress!  I didn’t cry either… not even close.  But I absolutely loved the way I looked and felt on my wedding day.  I wouldn’t worry at all.  You made the right choice. There is no such thing as THE dress.  The expectation that you will cry and have that moment when you find the right one, just isn’t realistic, in my experience.

Post # 23
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509 posts
Busy bee

Your dress is stunning, and fits your theme exactly.  I never had a WOW moment.  What happens on TV is highly edited, and they probably encourage people to cry and get crazy emotional, it makes for better tv.  It would be a pretty boring show if people just stood there calmly and said, “yes, I’ll take this one, it’s fine”.

Put your mind at ease, we brides have been told for so many years that it’s top priority to get the exact right dress, and look perfect.

Post # 24
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2844 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love your dress and you look amazing!

I think sometimes the actual process of buying the dress sucks the emotions out of it, especially if you try a lot of them on. I bet you did feel excited at the start but after a while frustration/boredom/apathy starts to kick in. I also feel that if you have high expectations about THE ONE DRESS making you feel a particular way, that can actually be counterproductive, because it puts pressure on you to FEEL THIS ONE NOW rather than letting things flow naturally.

That’s not to say you won’t feel anything but you might need to wait, until everything’s fresh again for you. I never expected to feel anything about my dress, but I was actually starting to think I’d made the wrong decision because I didn’t feel anything for it… but then at my penultimate fitting I had a few tears come from nowhere.

So just wait. 

Post # 26
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472 posts
Helper bee

I never cried either and I cry a lot lol its perfectly normal not to cry over a material thing.  Not everyone has an attachment to their dress.  your dress is amazing on you! totally nailed what you were going for.  you truly look amazingggggg

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