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I don’t think that taking in the dress in circumfrance any more would be helpful. I think taking up some of the shoulders would change the fit of the dress in the front to match the clipped one better. If you don’t undersand what I mean, think of the typical t-shirt that has seams on each shoulder. If you took the shirt in at those seams, it would raise the chest and back. If you are short waisted, this is where the proportion is off for you. Basically, you look like you are slumping. Let the dress help you look like you are standng tall.
I see why you loved the dress clipped. It is spectacular and looks great on you!
Also, if it is metal boning, you should be able to re-shape it to fit better. Ask someone with experience making corsets to do this.
Post # 18
I’m comparing your pics side by side, trying to figure out what went wrong. The sample dress looks beautiful on you, but the new one looks so wrong. The new one makes your boobs look much bigger than they really are, which makes it look like you’re leaning forward. It makes you look top heavy, but in the sample I can see that your proportions are just fine.
Does the sample not have boning in the chest? If not, then I think removing the boning would help. Either way, the chest part of the new dress is way too big for you, so if you can somehow alter it to fit your chest better, I think that would really improve the overall look.
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So, I actually LOVE your dress! And, I can see why you loved it, too! It seems to really fit your vision. The pic of you in the sample is lovely! I am not a seamstress- it may be worthwhile to take both pics and the dress to a new seamstress for a consultation. I’m wondering, too, are you wearing a bra in the altered dress? My seamstress sewed cups into my dress- after another seamstress had me buy multiple bras- none of which worked. By the time I got to a new seamstress, she simply looked at me and said “why don’t I just sew cups in for you?”. It was like the skies cleared and birds began to sing! And, that alone made a world of difference. You have a uni-boob in the altered dress (no offense is intended!!!) and you shouldn’t- you are stunning!! If this is your dress, and you love it, go back to your seamstress or consult another to get this fixed.
The detail work on the dress is beautiful. You are beautiful. This will work out- one way or another.
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PS: do you have another pic of you in the altered dress that is full length? Similar to the one in the sample? There are some experienced bees on here who might be able to offer some additional alterations suggestions if they can see the full-length pic. Plus, is some of the difference we see from photo angle, posture, etc.?
Post # 22
You could try shortening the boning. Most bonin is made of plastic and if the torso of the dress was too long then the boning is long too. The picture of you stooping over was not the best pose to evaluate the fit of the dress because your breasts are going to drop and swing forward. In fact the pose emphasizes what you say is wrong with the dress. Try adjusting the location or length of the boning. It’s not that uncommon of an adjustment just mre invasive to the dres.
It is a lovely dress and I czn see why you chose it.
Post # 23
So sorry bee! Just chiming in to say the same thing happened to my sister. The sample dress looked amazing her on her, clipped in the back. Then when they ordered it in her size, the neckline was totally different, the skirt overwhelmed her, and it just fit very differently. She ended up selling it on a used wedding dress website for about the price she paid (but it wasn’t altered yet – that might make it harder for you) and found a great used dress for much cheaper that she loved.
Also, I second the BHLDN recommendation! If you like the art deco style, I LOVE the Jacinda. It’s out of my price range so I ended up going with the Selah: https://www.bhldn.com/product/selah-gown. It’s out of stock now but they have a lot of other similar styles I really loved too.
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littlebeans : Omg that selah gown is literally perfect! It’s everything I love about mine but the neckline is so much more open. Did your wedding already happen?
The jacinda is also dreamy af but that flowly waist wouldn’t work for me–not to mention the price!
I half want to see if mine is salvagable because I love the dress itself so much, but it’s just so much DRESS. (There’s that question about whether the dress is wearing you or you are wearing the dress, and I think the dress is wearing me.) I am nervous to spend more removing the boning only to find out that it STILL looks bad and I have even less time to find another option. Also a little frustrated by my tailor. She isn’t patient with me, has asked me 15 minutes prior to the fitting the last two times if we could meet earlier/later, and says things like, “You’re focusing too much on the details.” She also doesn’t seem to have A/C in her shop and I’ve been sweating in my dress in the Texas heat. I had to ask her last time if she had a fan. I don’t need to be treated like Beyonce nor would I want to, but I want to feel like it’s a pleasnt experience, you know?
Do you think I should try those Lulu dresses I listed before I ask her to go through with removing the boning? I’m thinking that if any of those dresses looks awesome–or at least pretty close to awesome–I should just continue with one of those instead. Sorry for the long post. I need someone to vent to!
Post # 25
I think the Lulu dresses look cheap – plus the high necked/open backed style rarely works for big busted girls. I like the BHLDN ones that another person posted.
I am unsure if you can salvage the dress you have – the sample looked great but the one under alteration not so much – however, the angle is different and you are leaning forwward so its hard to say. I also think the dress may be too tight now – it should skim not hug. The ‘uni boob’ is always an issue with high necked/full coverage dresses on big busted girls.
How much was the original dress? Do you love it enough to keep throwing $$ at it?
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Rachael1 : sorry bee. I bet this is super frustrating. I must admit that perhaps there is a disconnect between the seamstress and what your concerns are, or the seamstress cannot get the job done. The chest area looks completely different from the sample to your own dress. They themselves need to be made smaller to suit you better. Take the dress back and tell the seamstress they aren’t providing satisfactory work. They need to see that picture of how the sample looked. Your dress looks like it’s been altered in all the wrong places compared with your sample you tried on. I went through something slightly similar my sample looks amazing and my dress that came in was altered, but after alterations there was some buckling on my torso as my torso is much shorter than what the dress was made for. These issues only start showing when alterations are done as they try to fit it precisely to your body. But after two sessions I’d be complaining about why they can’t do what you’re asking… and if they can’t you need to ask for reasons and explanations. You shouldn’t have to pay again if they did not deliver on their end. I say take it back in and have them hold up the sample photo while they reassess. A good seamstress will be able to spot the differences immediately.
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ozbee : I agree I wouldn’t trust the Lulu dresses at all – they won’t hold up. Particularly as you are bigger up top – how are they going to hold you up they are so flimsy and you can’t wear a bra with the majority of them – which you will definitely need.
i know you are running out of time so it is time to pull out the stops and try to asalvage the dress..
perhaps try a different seamstress for a second opinion – a bridal specialist who will give you a bit more time and effort. You may have to pay a bit more but realistically it would be worth it rather than a $100 dress that offers no support at all and is probably very cheap unflattering material irl.
I have learnt my lesson many times ordering cheap work / summer clothes – definitely wouldn’t risk it on a wedding dress!!!
Post # 28
Rachael1 : is it worth taking it to another seamstress. My sister had a nightmare with her wedding dress with the instore seamstress. They went through three rounds of alterations with each round making it worse! A week before she picked up her dress it was a mess so we took it to another seamstress who knew how to fix it and made it look a million times better with only 4 days to spare!
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sammypassion : I agree! The chest portion of this size 2 dress hardly looks different from the chest portion of the sample size 12 I tried on in the store! The heart shaped part is just so tall and wide. I have big boobs, but they fit within a smaller frame and my body just can’t take up this shape. My last resort was to remove the boning, but since the dress is still so far from where i want it to be (my seamstress thinks it looks good now, btw) I’m worried that it’ll just add more time to the bill for something I might not even use. I freakin’ love the dress itself, but I’d rather have a simple dress that flatters my body than an amazing dress that’s making me look awkward. Another thing the seamstress had done for me was put a little cut into the sleeves so I could actually move my arms, but now there’s sideboob popping out of that space. When I tried a backless bra on with the dress to see if it would give me some lift, not only did the dress look even worse, but I had side boob squishing out of that armhole space. When I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that, she was like, “Oh, we all have that.” But that’s not true. I think that often happens when something is too small for someone or not fitting properly. Why would I wanna settle for squishy sideboob on my wedding day? It’s frustrating that she and I have different views of what looks good and what doesn’t. When I texted her the other day to basically say I was nervous about removing the boning because of adding cost/the risk it might still not look right, she was impatient and unprofessional. I asked her how much I owed her so far and she said the her notes were in her shop and she didn’t know right now. But she never told me. The only price update I got was at the 1st fitting when I was discussing something that would involve her rebeading stuff and she said, “Well, this is already $150 of work.” Other than that, I have no idea how much this had cost me so far. I kind of just don’t like the vibes I’m getting from her and if I do decide to continue getting it altered, I feel like I should see someone else. She’d offered that via text saying something like, “I can take out what I’ve already done and you can take it to someone else and just pay me for my time.” Should I have her remove everything she’s done if I do take it back? I think what she did was sew some things in place without actually cutting anything. If some of those changes are okay, it would be good to not have to pay for them again. And then how do I handle payment for what she’s done? I’m worried she’s going to tell me this is $300 worth of work. Ugh. I just don’t know whether the problem with the dress is her, the dress not being good for me, or both.
ozbee : Others on here have basically said, “This isn’t the dress for you. You need something with a fuller bottom to balance out your top” and “The neck is too high.” So I now I have that in my head and I wonder if I just made the wrong choice altogether. The nicer parts of my body are my collar bones and my back (and boobs if they’re in the right thing) and this is covering up all of them. It was definitely more than I imagined spending on a wedding dress. Part of the reason I pulled the trigger on this dress is that I had been to BHLDN, a consignment bridal shop her, David’s Bridal, and two other regular bridal shops in the area. Things either fit really poorly or were leaps and bounds out of my price range. So when I saw this one and it was pretty and (seemed to) fit well and was the cost of a nice but not the nicest of BHLDN dresses, I decided to go for it. That being said, I can’t spend that kind of money again, but I want to feel like me on my wedding day. I think I care more at this point about having a baller fit than a baller dress. I hear you on the Lulu’s front, but I thought I’d just give them a try since the stakes so low with the free returns. Strangely, a lot of the reviews say that the quality was much better than they were expecting.
sadie15 : Thanks for those links! I actually tried on the Sanders BHLDN dress! Similiar beadwork to the dress I bought for sure. Unfortunately, the boob situation still wasn’t the greatest on me. I loved it from the side, but the deep v is another neckline that isn’t the greatest for big boobs. I looked a little matronly. The stasia BHLDN gown you posted is beautiful, but it’s not available. I was looking at this one too: https://www.bhldn.com/product/sinclair-dress
Ahh I’m freaking out, you guys!
Post # 30
Ugh what a crappy situation. A friend of mine recently had a wedding dress disaster where her dress arrived two weeks before the wedding and way too small. Her tailor was great and able to fix it. So I think you still have time. It sounds like you are falling out of love with your current dress though. I have to admit some of those brides in the reviews on Lulus look great, so maybe wait and see if one of those will work, then if not see if you can get a firmer price quote from your current tailor and go from there.