Post # 31
It sounds like your seamstress is terrible, so I would start by getting your dress back and taking it somewhere else for a consultation. I don’t see any reason to have her reverse the changes that she’s already made; if they need to be undone, the next person can undo them.
But I’d try to avoid telling her that you’re taking the dress elsewhere, in case she gets offended and tries to take it out on you somehow. I’d just say you’re having doubts about the whole dress and are looking at starting over at Lulu’s, which is completely true.
Post # 32
What about payment? Should I just pay her the $150, since that was the last number she gave me even though she’s done work since then?
Post # 33
Bee seeing both dresses I understand why you’re disappointed. From these pictures the larger dress, clipped, does seem like it is more flattering. Is the tailor through the shop you got the dress from? Have you reached out to them at all. A couple things come to mind for me:
1) As a fellow petite gal I wonder if your torso length is throwing things off. I know I’ve dealt with this beacause in dresses cut for someone of average height my hips sometimes hit where someone else’s waist would. So while my measurements may be in line with a particular size the actual effect in person isn’t always flattering depending on how things fit.
2) I think the original dress looks lighter because, being a larger size, the detail work is more spaced out than the smaller size.
3) Could you play around with different options for support up top? Perhaps experimenting with different types of sew in cups or undergarments might improve the look. Or perhaps even letting out the seam around the bust. Perhaps that would create less of the uni-boob look?
4) With these more fitted sheath dresses I think fluctuations in bloating/weight, etc can show up more.
If I were you I’d reach out to the shop and let them know the struggles you are having and see if they might be able to connect you with a different tailor. You have a great body and I don’t think it shows it off, BUT I also think if you love the dress it may be worth making peace with the fact that it maybe isn’t the most flattering dress in the world but wearing it anyway. It’s not perfect but if you’re budget constrained I don’t know that you’re going to end up with something more flattering than what you already have because I do think the combo of being petite and having a larger bust does point to a narrower range of flattering dresses.
Post # 34
Your boobs in your dress look 8 sizes bigger than the sample, and there is rippling round your waist where it’s too tight. Did you wear different underwear? Have you tried a minimising bra and spanx? Could they take the bust in and let the waist and top hip out? It’s not clear where the boning is – can you draw over a picture where we can see? It might help let it sit better. Good points: It looks nice, just not like the sample. It is not so bad you can’t wear it, and it’s going to get better with some work arounds. Chin up bee!
Post # 35
If it were me, I’d probably try to go to a BHLDN store in person and try on some dresses if possible – I don’t know where you are in Texas but there’s one in Houston. If you can’t go in person, I’m pretty sure they have free return shipping. It sounds like we have similar taste and BHLDN has a lot that I liked. My second favorite of the ones in the store when I went was probably the Sanders
You might also try looking at some used wedding dress websites – there are a ton out there! You can find dresses you like, even go try them on, and then look for a used version for cheaper. You might also find ones that are out of stock although I don’t remember ever seeing the Selah anywhere. I got super lucky with it – the salesgirl called their warehouse while I was in the store and I literally got the last one of my size. My wedding isn’t actually until next summer but I got the dress months ago because I knew this was the one!
Post # 36
I went to the Houston BHLDN at the beginning of the dress search and tried on a bunch. Nothing was really looking right. The sanders is beautiful, but the deep v also wasn’t flattering in the boob area for me. Awesome from the side though. Just not the most flattering thing overall.
Post # 37
I think you would be better off checking out ASOS bridal rather than lulus if you are looking for a cheaper dress to replace your original. Additionally, check out YouTube there are a ton of videos where girls have ordered the dresses from Lulus and Asos which will give you a much better idea about the quality of them.
Post # 38
You need a new seamstress, stat. Your current seamstress doesn’t know what she’s doing. Don’t let her touch the dress again, just take it to someone else.