Post # 1
I bought my dress in November and it came in about 2 weeks ago. I picked it up and tried it on and…………..nothing. I felt fine in it but I didn’t love it.
I have had doubts ever since about feeling ‘happy’ in my dress and did I make the right choice?? I feel like a part of me now will regret what I picked, no matter how wonderful the rest of the day turns out. I always wanted to LOVE the dress I picked and feel amazing in it and now I do not think I will.
I don’t have unlimited resources or time in terms of getting another dress so I am not sure if that is something I should even consider or if I should just suck it up and hope I don’t care on the big day.
Anyone else gone through this?
Post # 3
I just purchased my dress on Saturday. While it’s far from what I thought I would get and initially loved—it looks great on me and I still feel fantastic in the dress. I wanted lace, maybe a little beading, a little pouf in the skirt but not ballroom type poufy. Instead I found an all ivory no lace, no beading, no fancy stitching and it has a corset back with v-neck off the shoulder straps. I have thought about what I could do to make the dress “mine”. Add a colored ribbon for the corset back instead of just ivory. Add some colored shoes. Add a great accessory for the hair. Jewelry can really change things up a bit too.
Is there something you can do to make the dress “yours” and not just a dress you picked? What does it look like? Do you think you set yourself up with pretty high expectations to love the dress so much it’s not living up to your dream?
Remember, the day you were that dress you will be so giddy on emotions the dress will make it even better because you will be the bride. You will be the one in the fancy dress, carrying a bouquet, maybe a veil, etc and you will look fabulous 🙂
Post # 4
I’m sorry you feel that way. Was there another dress you loved and would make you happier? You may try looking at samples and used dresses that may still work in your budget, if there’s something you absolutely want. Otherwise maybe you can work with the dress you got and invest in some extra alterations to make it more like what you want? Play with the silhouette, neckline etc, or accessorize it with lace/beading/sash etc? At least your dress came in early so you have enough time to get creative with it. It might be easier once you’ve identified whis aspect of the dress you’re not crazy about. If you want to post some pics maybe we can give you some ideas too. Good luck.
Post # 5
Thanks for the quick responses! It is not any one thing in particular about the dress; it is more of the overall look. It is more innocent and traditional than I think I wanted. To be honest, I had a REALLY hard time picking a dress to begin with and I definitely let my mom/sister influence me more than I wanted:
These are some pictures of me in it:
I think I wanted something more modern and sleek and simple. If I really did go get another dress – what in the heck would I do with this dress I own?? It was $1000 and we are not in a position financially to just let that go (let alone spend another $1000). I hate that I am even thinking this way.
I tried on SO MANY dresses and just never found one I loved and ended up picking the one I did because I felt like I had to pick something and that at the time, it felt right. I get what you are saying about making it mine but try as I might, I literally can’t envision myself that day at all – I have no idea what I want to look like and anytime I try to picture myself, I feel totally dissapointed and sad. I don’t know what to do with my hair or makeup or shoes or jewlery and can’t seem to get a picture together. Everytime I think of it, I hate the way I look in my head 🙁
Post # 6
((HUGS)) I totally understand the feeling. What is it about your dress that you dislike?
Post # 7
I think it looks great. & as for picturing yourself; I picture your hair back in a loose updo with loos spiral curls. Something like this….. [attachment=693075,89927] [attachment=693075,89928]
Post # 8
I agree with LacyLust those hairstyles would look awesome–but do your hair the way you feel best is for you. I’m not a high updo kinda gal so I actually just saved the photo of Eva for my inspiration 🙂 I had a hard time finding a dress too so I know your pain. Have you thought about trying to sell the dress? But then if you do is there even a dress you are confident you would pick and want to wear. That’s the question. Also, how much time until the wedding?
Post # 9
@cakey110 – I just got finally got to look at your photos. I know it’s your opinion that counts and not mine, but I think you look lovely in your dress. Really lovely. That dress has everything I wanted and didn’t get: the corset top, the drop waist, the full skirt, and the lace…And I spent thousands on my dress! Could it be that you’re looking at yourself at a overly critical light, and possibly reflecting other wedding worries onto this too?
You still have months before the wedding…Do you have the finances to go for a professional hair and make-up trial? They usually try on several different looks and you might just love what you see in the mirror, and get a clearer idea of what you want. I agree that it’s difficult to put a complete look from scratch. Also, if the store you bought your dress sells accessories as well, go back and try on some with the dress on? I was very lukewarm about my dress until I went to look at the store sample again a few weeks ago, and tried it on with a necklace, earrings and hair accessory they suggested. I didn’t buy any of them (way too expensive) but suddenly the dress looked much more beautiful to me!
Post # 10
Thanks all for your comments. I had my sister e-mail me a few more pictures taken the day I bought the dress and after she did that, I felt much better. Its hard to remember how I felt IN it and that it does look nice.
I am trying to still think of how I want my overall look to be, but I feel MUCH better.
To be honest, ALL of the planning is really ON right now and I feel like it is ALL WEDDING ALL THE TIME in my life. I am pretty overwhelmed and anxious and think maybe the dress was something to focus on to feel more in control.
Anyhow, I appreciate the kind and supportive words and hopefully I will not be back in a month having another dress meltdown 🙂