- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Today I went dress shopping with two out of my four bridesmaids. The other two, including my sister the Maid/Matron of Honor, live out of state. I’d already kept a group Pinterest board and a FB group chat updating everyone of the styles and colors I was leaning towards.
We picked out a very pretty bridesmaids dress that was everything I wanted. We are doing multi-colored bridesmaid dresses in the same style using a peacock-inspired palette. My sister was the one who both suggested the multi-colored dress idea AND using peacock green.
We picked out a dress, and took some time picking out 4 colors for the dresses. The two Bridesmaid or Best Man I was with, a ginger and a blonde, picked the two blue dresses, leaving the two green dresses for my sister and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man, who are Asian. If I was assigning colors, I would’ve made the same choice because that is what I think looks the best on everybody out of the colors available.
Later, after I updated everyone on our FB board, I recieved an apoplectic, SUPER BITCHY phone call from my sister, complaining that I didn’t let her have first dibs on the the dress, and that she HATES green, and NEVER wears green, basically her yelling at me on the phone. She even threatened to back out being Maid/Matron of Honor if I made her wear a green dress (which, by the way, is my favorite color). But she also said that if I had made everyone wear a green dress, she wouldn’t be complaining, but somehow since I’d let my friends pick the blue dresses before her… Oh, I dunno.
I’m really frustrated right now. I’ve tried not to be a bridezilla, and tried to give my BMs a choice in the dress selection, and yet it feels like it’s blowing up in my face. I feel like my sister is trying to eat my wedding and bridesmaidzilla in some unnessary drama, when I’m a pretty drama-free person.
So should I try to get one of my friends to “trade” her a blue dress, or just assert my control as the bride / big sister and tell her to suck it and wear the green dress?