(Closed) Dress dreams crushed… What to do?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Do you think you can find a better dress? Something that you love more? Do you have pictures?

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Keep looking. Next one will be better. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Is she going to be at the wedding? If not, who cares? Especially if you are not close with her anymore.

 

And if she is invited, dress yours up in a different way (belt, jewelery, shoes etc.) and make it your own. You shouldn;t have to pick a different dress because someone you know has the same taste as you!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

that’s a gorgeous dress but I think you can find similar styles with more beading or maybe a lower back ir a keyhole etc … I think you should at least look and if not, get it! Is she getting married before?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

How elaborate is the dress? Once you dress it up with hair,  makeup,  and accessories the dresses may not look like they are the same dress anymore.  If it has a belt,  maybe switch it out for a different one,  or if there’s no belt, could you add one?  How much guest overlap will there be?  Will this girl be a guest at your wedding?  Do you and this girl have similar styles or wedding themes?  Are you getting married in different seasons?  

Lastly,  is it a dress that you could possibly find something similar that makes you even happier?  My original dress love was Watters Sterling, but I found out it was discontinued.  I moved on to Watters San Francisco thinking that i could put a belt on it,  only to discover that it was 3 times my budget.  When I found my Maggie Sottero it was like the pieces that I loved from the others had been sewn into one dress. 

Post # 8
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Newbee

Is she coming to your wedding or vice versa? If not, I don’t see why you can’t get the dress that you love. (Granted, you should be able to get what YOU want either way. It’s your wedding.)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think you could easily find something similar, it is stunning but it isn’t exactly a difficult style to find. I am sure you could find something very close to it, and even if you can’t, who cares if you have the same dress?

Unless you willl be having a lot of the same guests, or she will be at your wedding or vica versa, it shouldn’t be an issue.

If it’s because you want it to be special to you, honestly as much as you don’t want to hear it there are probably a lot of brides out there with that dress, you just don’t know them.

Whatever dress you wear will be special because you are in it. You could both look totally different wearing the same dress! people might not even notice!

Wear what makes you happy, she obviously is 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cornucopia St. Charles

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blt982:  it shouldn’t matter if she has the same dress or not,  your decision should be based on what you like and can afford.  If this girl has a problem with perceived copying than she must be very immature, and it really is her problem.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

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blt982:  well that sucks…..do you absolutely love this dress? Can you maybe just think more a long the lines of you picked it first and this is your dress so who cares what she thinks? how far apart are your weddings and who has their Wedding first? If she does ask just tell her you ordered yours months ago. No one needs to know that she ordered it first. What dress is it that you love?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

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blt982:  just saw the pics…..this is a style that is really big right now. How can anyone copy her? Tons of brides where dresses like this. Get the dress you love! It’s not owned by her.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

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blt982:  Two of my cousins bought the same dress, same year.  I went to both their weddings, and I didn’t know it.  Found out many years later, when one of my aunts told me.  

You and the other girl are going to look completely different in the same dress.  Look at girls here on WB that are dress twins and see how different they look.  

You will also have your hair different, your make-up different, different jewelry and shoes.  

Wear your dress and love it!!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse

I’d buy it and wear it anyway!  And I’d wear it with a ‘don’t care what you think’ flounce! 

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