(Closed) dress etiquette for guests

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Either one of the black dresses will still be fine. I would just pair in with a cute cardigan!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it depends on the style of wedding…if it’s cocktail-y, semi-formal, or formal then LBD totally works (maybe play up some colorful, spring-like accessories?).  But if the wedding is more garden-party/tea style or informal, I think LBD is too dark/dressed up.  Maybe check out what the bridesmaids will be wearing & see if you have something in a similar style/color; especially if you’re going to be in family pics (MOBs & MOGs traditionally wear the wedding colors).  HTH!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Traditional etiquette says you shouldn’t actually wear black to any wedding, especially not a daytime one. Maybe use this as an opportunity to buy yourself a nice summer dress that you’ll love, in a fun color or print? If your heart is set on the LBD, I would ask the bride about it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I think a black dress will be fine. Nowadays, people wear whatever they want to weddings and nobody blinks an eye.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think so, but i prefer lighter colored dresses in spring weddings. I don’t see anything wrong with an LBD if it’s culturally appropriate (some cultures i.e. mine don’t allow black dresses at weddings).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

If you want to make sure no one will be disaproving wear a lighter colored dress.  If you just want to be within the bounds of decent etiquette you can wear the LBD.  I wouldn’t mind you wearing a black dress but my mom and grandmothers would but they wouldn’t hate you for it or anything.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think it would be fine, but would be nicer to add some color to it, like a pashmina or wrap to bring out some color since it’s daytime. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

This is why I love WB – I’ve never heard of not wearing black to a wedding before I came here. I wear LBD’s all the time to weddings. You could jazz it up with an awesome necklace or a pashmina/cardi/jacket like the PP’s suggested. Maybe some great shoes? I’m a big fan of an LBD with bright RED shoes that pop. Dunno why. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not so sure the majority of people care about wedding etiquette these days. I think that you could wear either of the two dresses and it would be perfet. Like Dana said, people wear whatever they want now.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I usually wear a nice light summery dress in the daytime for weddings.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

A black dress seems a little dark or heavy for a May daytime wedding…. but this comes more from my “fashion” point of view vs. anything else.  I don’t think most people follow the “no black at weddings” thing anymore as a blanket rule.  I wear black dresses to nighttime winter weddings if I feel like it, but for other seasons I have other color dresses that I wear.

If most other women guests were wearing springy colors and styles, would you feel out of place?

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’d see this as a great opportunity to buy a cute, bright colored dress. 😉 I think you’d be the only person in black, so it would depend on how much that bothers you, if at all. I don’t buy black not being wedding-appropriate (unless it’s also culturally inappropriate), but I do think you could do better in spring/daytime.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would not wear a LBD to a daytime wedding in May.  Buy a cute new colorful spring dress!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

LBD is fine but i would pair it with coloful shoes and accessories. i prefer sundress type dresses for spring/summer weddings though in the afternoon since its kinda hot here, but each to their own.

but the LBD will be fine – just dress it more summery! 🙂

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