(Closed) Dress etiquette – keeping choice a secret?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

“It’s going to be a surprise”

Post # 4
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Astra:  it’s your choice. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’ve been pretty selective with who sees mine. If someone asks, just smile and say “you’ll have to come to the wedding to find out!” Just keep it lighthearted and then change the subject. 

Post # 5
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t show mine to everyone.  My mom went with me, and we showed Dad after it came it home.  I am trying to keep mine a “secret” too from most people.  I want everyone to be surprised.  Just tell them the truth – it’s a surprise!

Post # 6
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Astra:  I plan on doing the same thing. The only people who will see my dress before the wedding will be my parents, my sister, my grandma, and my Bridesmaids. I want my dress to be a big surprise for everyone.

If your friend asks to see your dress, you can tell her, “It’s a Maggie Sottero, but that’s all I’m sharing! You’ll have to be at the wedding to see it! It’s a big surprise!” You can also tell her your feelings about the dress; it makes me feel like a princess. One more idea I had was to simply tell them “It’s white and it’s a ballgown (or fit-and-flare, etc.)”

Post # 7
25 posts

Just tell them it’s a surprise and give them a short, vague description.  If they want more info, they’ll just have to wait!


Post # 8
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

Other than the Bee and a select few friends/family members I’ve kept my dress a secret.  If people ask I just tell them its an ivory, mermaid. I’ve also explained that I want it to be a surprise, most people understand.  If your friend presses the issue just tell her you’re afraid of it leaking to your Fiance and while you know she won’t tell, you just would rather not have to remember who you’ve told and who you haven’t told, so no one knows what your dress looks like.

Post # 9
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

when she asks which one you chose, tell her “the perfect one for me.”

if she presses the issue, tell her you’d like to surprise everyone on your big day.

if she continues to press you, stop answering her questions.

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