(Closed) Dress Etiquette

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I am pretty familiar with wedding etiquette, and I am pretty sure that no one goes out of their way to follow that one.  I really don’t think anyone else but you (the bride) would know this rule.

Post # 5
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I def. think the moms should wear whatever they feel most comfortable in!

Post # 6
1449 posts
Bumble bee

My BM’s have tea length dresses and the moms are wearing full length dresses.  Dont think its a problem at all!

Post # 7
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree everyone else.  My mom actually felt that the Bridal Party should wear long dresses, but I didn’t really care.  My Maid/Matron of Honor said that she preferred shorter b/c it’s so hot in the summer to have long satin on…but no way my mom or Future Mother-In-Law would be willing to show their legs at a formal affair.  Pretty sure I’ve never seen Future Mother-In-Law in anything but long skirts or pants.  My mom only rarely wears shorter skirts, and never more than tea length…and only for really casual situations.  I think that the comfort of MOB and Future Mother-In-Law is most important…and there are plenty of long dresses that would not look more formal than the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress you picked.

Post # 8
1652 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with the pp.  I was goingto say something similar to fizicsGirl.  My mother would lose it if she was told that she had to wear tea length.  She won’t show her legs for anything.

Post # 9
468 posts
Helper bee

My bridesmaids and mom all wore short (knee length) dresses, but my Future Mother-In-Law wore a long dress.  I’ve never seen her in a skirt that was shorter than floor length, so I pretty much knew she’d prefer to wear a long dress.  She actually agonized over it for a long time because she felt she should wear a short dress if my mother was going to, but she has bad varicose veins and is self-conscious about her legs.  I had to tell her about 50 times to just wear a long dress, as I truly didn’t care at all.

Post # 10
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s COMPLETELY acceptable for MOB and MOG to wear long dresses. Mine’s wearing this:


and my girls are in knee-length cocktail style dresses. 

I think it’s totally ok if moms are more formal than the Bridal Party anyways. They are the moms! I’ve NEVER seen a mom (c’mon they’re probably in their 50’s right?) rock a short dress to a wedding. I’ve always always always seen long. My mom’s is by far the "sexiest" MOB dress I’ve ever seen because it’s not modest and there’s no jacket like most MOB dresses. 

Post # 11
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s fine for the moms to wear long dresses.

Post # 12
46 posts
  • Wedding: December 2009

Maybe that rule came about for photography aesthetics?

Depending on where in the photo your mother and mother in law are standing the floor legnth dresses might not balance well with tea length?

I dunno.  I don’t think mothers need to match bridesmaid length since when they are both in the picture they will usually be on opposite sides of you so it will balance out but whatever length one mother chooses I would encourage the other to follow to make sure they have some consistency.

Maybe if maids are in tea length and mothers in floor length it will actually disinguish them a bit more? Its a special day for them too

Post # 13
28 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think the etiquette rules on length of dresses mainly serve to make sure that everyone in the wedding is dressed at about the same level of formality.  Those Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are definitely formal enough (with the taffeta and satin, and especially since tea length is still relatively long) that it seems like floor-length dresses for the mothers would look just fine alongside them.  I think the bigger issue is that you don’t really want the mothers to look more formally dressed than the bride (and groom).

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