Dress for rehearsal dinner

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Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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@bunny0401:  I think what you percive as “ugly snark” is actually brutal honesty.  Those closest to us are often afraid to tell it like it is for fear of offending.  But if you are going to poll internet strangers for their opinions you need to be prepared to hear the unfiltered truth.

Post # 47
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

then why bother posting?  if you are not conservative and you love this dress, just wear it.  it is your choice to make.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I was one who said it looked (to me) a bit cheap. I’m sorry if that offended, you psoted the link and the store clearly sells expensive pieces in similar style. I think what looks cheap to me is the skirt (that super ruffled, slightly frayed looking style) in combination with the bright red color. It looks a little costume-y to me. I also mentioned stores like Pretty Girl/Rainbow because I feel like I’ve actually seen skirts very similar there for a low price…I bought one once…

Again, sorry to offend but if it was me, I would want to know. 

It’s possible that it looks more lux in person? Remember we’re seeing a mirror selfie in a poorly lit room. Maybe the color or construction looks better IRL. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You truly look amazing in the dress, I personally wouldn’t wear it for the rehearsal, but depending on what you are doing for your bachelorette party, it may be a perfect choice for that! 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

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@bunny0401:  Glad to hear it! Also I agree with the comment just made above that it would be a good dress for a bachelorette…more of a “let your hair down and have fun” sort of event. 

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Agoura, California

Honestly, I don’t see anything wrong with the dress.

For over a decade, many designers have been designing bridal and prom dresses with this same sexy, barely-there look. It’s everywhere online.

The only difference between her dress and the bridal and prom dresses are the skirts have longer layered tulle/train, and the corsets have beaded appliqués with sequins, rhinestones and crystals.

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@bunny0401:  Your fiancé, family and friends know what type of person you are. Nothing wrong with letting your future in-laws know too. They’re going to find out eventually. If that’s your personality, be and do you with confidence. 

If you feel good about the dress, wear it. If you’re worried about what others will say and think, then don’t.

Post # 53
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Wannabee

I’ve been a lurker for a few years and found this website extremely helpful when I was planning my own wedding. Restrospectively, thank you all for your many posts and threads.  That being said, I finally made an account just to comment on this.

I know that a lot of women have different ideas about what is appropriate for different occasions and when I was planning my own black tie wedding, I saw suggestions of, have a pizza party for your rehearsal dinner.  That would have been super inappropriate for my wedding, personally, but it was a fine suggestion for the more casual bride for whom it was intended.  Skater style dresses were common suggestions at that time on the threads (and were lovely options!) but would not have been appropriate for my Rehearsal Dinner venue.  Point being, there are MANY excellent ways to have a beautiful wedding and many different dresses, styles, etc that are appropriate for different brides.  

I love the dress on you.  Whether it’s inappropriate for your rehearsal dinner is completely up to you.  You know whether your crowd will be judgmental or not of an edgy, more fashion forward dress.  You wouldn’t even try on a dress like that if you were someone who was concerned about being judged by your loved ones.  Maybe I’m biased because I’m a frequent FL&L customer myself haha, but my crowd wouldn’t have blinked an eye at a dress like that.  But I think it looks great and I don’t think every family is as conservative as some folks may assume.  It’s fashionable, fun, and honestly, a rehearsal dinner dress, or even wedding gown, doesn’t need to be classic or so serious.  If you feel beautiful in it and have fun in it, that is what you should look back on fondly, not whether it’ll be stylish in 20 years.  I personally wanted to wear something I could look back on and say, ‘d*mn, can’t believe I pulled that off!’ and I was already in my 30s.  I never considered whether my hypothetical daughter would wear it, for example (plus wouldn’t she want to choose her own?). I wouldn’t worry about a restaurant letting you in – maybe if you’re in a more rural area?  But if you’re in a major city, you’ll be fine. 

The one thing I’d consider is comfort throughout the night.  Another Bee posted a great idea of adding off the shoulder sleeves.  Something like that, straps, etc could just make it a more wearable dress from a comfort and movement standpoint.  Wear what’ll make you happy and most importantly of all, have fun with it!!  

Post # 54
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Newbee

I wouldn’t wear that for the rehearsal dinner. Given that you will be surrounded by family. But definitely a cute dress

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@bunny0401:  I do think that you could pull off a bustier dress at your rehearsal dinner, but this dress looks 1) way too costumey to me and 2) like lingerie. Even with the suggestions that PP have given, such as lining it and adding sleeves… it looks flimsy, cheap, and poorly constructed. Even if I don’t consider the slit, it looks like you put on lingerie and then a cheap tulle skirt over it. I’m sorry to say that–I know it is an expensive dress based on looking up the brand it’s from–but that’s how it comes across.

There are ways to make a bustier work that looks less like lingerie. For example:

 

If are interested in a lace bustier dress, perhaps look into one that is lined underneath and more structured like this one. This one could arguably be considered more sexy because it is figure-hugging. But the elements of this dress come together for a cohesive concept versus IMO the haphazard look of the dress you posted.

 

You can definitely make a tulle skirt work, but I wouldn’t have one that looks unintentionally cut up (like the one in your OP) because that makes it look a lot more casual. 

I would love the following  type of look on you (if you wanted to make it more modest, you could line the belly). This look is much more elevated than the one you have because there aren’t so many competing elements and the concept comes together. This is a very expensive D&G dress, but I feel like the look look could be reconstructed with a full tulle skirt and a bustier top that doesn’t look like lingerie (you could totally do it without the sleeves).

 

I hope this post gives you some ideas. I definitely think you can tie in elements you like, but would recommend you look for something that is more of a cohesive look.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m wondering what the dress has to do with Halloween. Halloween is about dressing in costumes…is this a costume? What are you supposed to be? Is there a mask that goes with it, some props? Maybe make it into a full-blown “sexy witch” costume and show up like that. Are others planning to dress in costume or otherwise outrageously or in the standard “sexy -fill-in-the-blank” gear? You’d probably stick out like a sore thumb if others aren’t planning to dress up too, no? 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I think you look great in this but I don’t think it’s appropriate, and I don’t get Halloween from this. I’m getting more of a Moulin Rouge vibe in which I’m all for a Moulin Rouge theme! 🤣🤣🤣Are you planning to wear a crazy wig, a witch hat, etc. to go with this because I’m just seeing orange lingerie not a Halloween dress. But if you want to wear it, then go for it!

Post # 60
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Honey bee

What about this dress? It’s Dessy from Nordstrom.

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