Dress from a broken engagement

posted 2 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do with this dress?
    Keep It. : (42 votes)
    45 %
    Donate it. : (15 votes)
    16 %
    Sell it. : (37 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    71 posts
    Worker bee

    Keep it, maybe it was sign and you then found the guy guy that your with now. And .. you love it. 

    Post # 17
    Member
    29 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I would sell it and if I can’t sell it I would donate it. It already has bad vibes to it and it would remind me of a broken engagement. But it’s a beautiful dress.

    Post # 18
    Member
    59 posts
    Worker bee

    I also have a dress from a broken engagement.  He ended the engagement 3 years ago and it was devastating at the time.  I had my dress, destination wedding booked, and save the dates already went out.  I bought my dress at Kleinfelds.  I decided to keep it.  I met my current boyfriend a year and a half ago and he is amazing and makes all the hurt I went through totally worth it.  I’m currently in the waiting phase for a proposal 🙂  

    Once we are engaged I plan on trying on the dress to see how I feel in it.  I also plan on dress shopping to see how I feel in other dresses.  If I want to wear the gown I already have I will tell my boyfriend and see how he feels about it.  I would not wear it if he was against it. 

     

    If you love the dress I’d hold onto it and see how you feel in the future. 

    Post # 19
    Member
    253 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m usually very stoic when it comes to this type of stuff: “things are just things. It’s your choice to assign meaning to them. Things do not represent people.” But in this case, I couldn’t wear it. I’d be haunted by the idea that it was specifically for my ex. I’d want a fresh start, and do something nice at the same time – donate it. There’s no lack of cheap sample dresses. 

    I wouldn’t want to sell it unless I could do so by consignment in a shop. No one’s coming to my house to try on a dress. I paid $100 for my sample dress, and I’m pretty sure I’ll just donate it after the wedding.

    Post # 20
    Member
    11456 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I kept mine, but it was much too small by the time I met the right guy and married 17 years later. The first dress is still in a box in my garage, unworn and unaltered. I’ve always hoped for someone special to be able to wear it.

    Post # 21
    Member
    744 posts
    Busy bee

    Wow it’s a beautiful gown. Typically I would say sell in this situation.  But if your heart is set on wearing it one day keep it and wait and see if it works out in the future. You can always sell at a later time if you decide not to wear it. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee

    OP, that’s a beautiful dress!  Since you still love it, I would keep it.

    I sold my dress from my broken engagement.  Since we broke up less than 2 months before the wedding, I wanted no reminders of that relationship.  I sold it at a consignment shop and got about half of what it cost.  I loved my dress but I was associating bad feelings with it so I knew I wasn’t ever going to be able to get past that.

    I am engaged to another guy and ironcially, my new dress is very similar to my old one.  But I love this one much more.

    Post # 23
    Member
    238 posts
    Helper bee

    I love the idea of giving the dress another chance at being a wedding dress. I say keep it, and add something special to it.

    Post # 24
    Member
    1 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I would probably keep the dress as it obviously felt right at the time when you bought it. If it gets to the point in the future when you’re planning to get married again, I’d try it on and select different accessories and just see if it feels right – get some friends/family to give their feedback too!

    Even if you keep it for now you can always sell it in the future if you change your mind. Did you keep it in its original packaging etc? If you’re worried about preserving it, try some of these tips and you should be fine! 

    Make sure to let us know if you change your mind or in the future if you end up wearing it!

    Post # 25
    Member
    7000 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If it were me I’d keep the dress for the time being. Are you currently engaged and actively planning a wedding with someone new? I might have missed that in your first post, but I’m thinking that maybe when do start planning with this new guy just go dress shopping to see what’s out there. Who knows, you might find someone you love more. If not, wear the other dress.

    Post # 26
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee

    I still have my unworn, un-altered wedding dress from a broken engagement from a couple years ago. I absolutely intend on wearing it if/when my current boyfriend and I wind up getting married (unless he has a serious problem with it). It’s a beautiful dress, I bought it with my own money, and I don’t feel like messing around with the whole dress search silliness ever again. Keep it if you love it!

    Post # 28
    Member
    422 posts
    Helper bee

    I know someone who was in this same situation, had been engaged and broke it off and ended up engaged again, and she wore it for her wedding.

    I thought it was weird and I personally wouldn’t do that but if you love it and neither you nor your future fiance think it’s weird I would say go for it!

    Post # 29
    Member
    787 posts
    Busy bee

    Keep it if you think you might wear it. My best friend did this she just had a few alterations done to it 

    Post # 30
    Member
    169 posts
    Blushing bee

    Same as PPs – if you still love it as a dress you might wear, then keep it. I’m still looking for my dress and it is not easy to find “the one”! 

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