- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Ok, I should start by saying I live in an area where there are literally NO nearby bridal shops (we are talking at least a 13 hour drive to find one). I am recently engaged (about a month now). We have decided on a Destination Wedding, and are giving ourselves loads of time (like 2014), since I am too busy right now to plan a wedding. Anyway, I had a pretty sucky first dress shopping experience for 3 reasons 1. the stores I went to were all crappy (stained dresses, pushy sales, no service, etc); 2. I felt rushed because I had a limited time (we are talking like, 2 hours) to get through the salons, and 3. got into a huge fight with my sister. Basically, I don’t even feel iike dress shopping anymore (it never really was my thing to begin with, but it is even less so now).
Not to sound like a pessimistic baby, but I m having difficulty getting over the negative experience (day from hell instead of exciting as hell), so I am thinking that it might be best to go custom/couture. I also don’t have anyone here I would trust with wedding dress alterations so if I buy off the rack, it would take some real strategy to figure out alterations.
I have looked at some Couture (and I mean the hand designed, hand stitched all silk) gowns, as well as several off-the rack designs (ok , over the internet mostly), and some made to order shops in China. I am honestly kind of cheap normally (except where shoes are concerned), but I realy love the idea of a couture gown that I don’t have to “shop” for…and that I can dictate the design of (like detatchable train and skirt, special beading, material, cut, etc). I am also short and have a very defined hourglass figure, so I don’t want to feel overpowered by a crazy dress, but naturally do want to feel amazing on the day.
I know I am super early in shopping, but given my location, I feel like I have to be extra specially savvy about time and resources to find the dress. There are a couple of off the rack designers that I really love (Maggie Sottero and Ella Bridals), but I haven’t tried them on yet. I have seen a couturier, and they estimated that the cost would be around 3500. Money isn’t an issue (I don’t really have a budget), but I would rather spend less (yep, still cheap).
Couture also kind of freaks me out because if I don’t love it when it’s finished, I am really really stuck with it.
Any advice for a frustrated newbee?