(Closed) dress help please!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i would sit down and talk to her about it. ask her what she’s comfortable with and go from there.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, I wouldn’t say anything.  You could definitely ask her what she’s thinking about wearing.  And if she asks you if you have a preference, then feel free to tell her.  From what I’ve experienced so far, you don’t want to get caught up in those details.  If everyone looks good and feels good, that will be so much better than if they’re all ‘matching’. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m inclined to say no here.  My Future Mother-In-Law would have been furious if I told her what color to wear. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

mm, you could just drop subtle hints about what the others are wearing. maybe show her pics of the other dresses, just because. maybe she will catch on and want to wear black too. maybe if she knew everyone else was wearing black, she wouldnt want to wear red and stand out?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@pjsoup: I wouldn’t sweat it.  You’re not going to have that many pictures with all of you together.  And who knows, she might pick black or gray or dark purple or something.  But I think telling her will start things off on the wrong foot.

In my case, my BMs are wearing watermelon which looks lovely with my mom’s grass green dress.  On the other hand, Future Mother-In-Law just bought a dress in “salmon”.  It’s probably not going to look the greatest with the other dresses.  But I figure, how many pictures are we all going to be in together?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Why not have your Fiance tell her all about what everyone else is wearing and let her draw her own conclusions?  If he (excitedly) tells her how everyone will be wearing black, she may catch on by herself.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly it depends on your relationship with your Future Mother-In-Law. If I were in this situation my Future Mother-In-Law would want me to tell her my preference.

Are you guys close? Do you feel that it would be easy to talk to her about this?

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