Post # 1
I’ve just started trying on dresses and overall, it’s fun! Yet, super confusing.
My parents are generously paying for my dress. I don’t want to spend a ton of money on a dress, regardless of who is paying for it.
I found Dress #1 last weekend that I loved! Totally wasn’t what I had in mind, but I had “the moment” when I looked in the mirror. I’m also having a Destination Wedding, and the bridal salon will handle the transportation so it’s super easy. Best part, it’s way under what I wanted to spend!
I wanted to keep looking to be sure.
Last night we found Dress #2. Also gorgeous and I love it, in a different way. It’s a lot more ME than Dress #1, in terms of style. It’s also more than 3X the price of Dress #1.
Problem is my mom is obsessed with dress materials. Dress #1 doesn’t meet her standards, so she’s pushing for Dress #2. While I LOVE dress 2, I really don’t want anyone spending that much money. Her answer is “well, I’m paying for it so you don’t have to worry.” Very nice of her to say… but still I’m not comfortable with it.
Any advice would be helpful!
Dress #1 –
Post # 3
I think they are both beautiful dresses. Take the price out of the equation for a minute. Which dress would you choose if they were both of equal cost? If the answer is #2, perhaps you should rethink your position. Your Mom sounds amazing and willing to give you the wedding gown of your dreams…but if it’s NOT the gown of your dreams…then keep looking! If you like the look and style of number 2 better, what is stopping you from finding other dresses more in your price range in the same fabric and shape?
Post # 4
they’re both beautiful but ultimately you will be wearing it at your wedding, regardless of who pays for it. take your gut feeling into account and what you picture yourself wearing that day. if you love both equally and your parents are fine with paying, then don’t sweat it
Post # 5
If you scroll down these boards for a while, you’ll see lots of “dress regret” posts and I’d say at least half of them have to do with making mom/sister/friend/family member happy when buying the dress the bride now regrets.
So my advice would be to go for the dress YOU love. If you’re really feeling guilty about the price, tell your mom that you insist on paying for a portion of the dress.
Post # 6
Disreguarding the price, which dress do you love more? Get the one you love more, mom is right, forget about the price, she wants you to have the most amazing moment in a dress and what she is comfortable spending is for her to decide. She only gets to have these moments once, let her treat you, it is as important to her as it is to you.
Post # 7
Agree with others – get the one that you love the most. I personally like the silhouette of #1 the best (at least on the model pics…don’t know for sure since these are always airbrushed!)
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for the great advice!
Update on the situation: Yesterday while trying on more dresses, I mentioned that I didn’t like Dress X more than Dress 1 above. My mom made some harsh comments voicing her feelings on Dress 1. I welled up with tears and went back to the dressing room.
My sister stepped in and explained how she was making me feel, and my mom came to talk to me. She apologized and we got everything out on the table. I felt much better, but left the salon with nothing.
TODAY we went to the 4th dress salon, and I FOUND THE ONE! I love it, Mom loves it, everyone is happy! It’s a bit more than I wanted to spend but so great that I don’t even care!
Will follow up with pics in a second post!
Post # 9
Congrats! I also found my dress today! I’m glad the situation got smoothed over.
Post # 10
@IUrebekah3RT: Congrats! What is your dress?? Are you feeling the same euphoric high as I am?