Dress insecurities and alterations. Help…

posted 6 months ago in Dress
Post # 16
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Beaver Creek, CO

I think it looks stunning on you and perfectly appropriate for a church wedding. I really would not add cap sleeves- in my opinion cap sleeves can cut off the line of your arms and make them look bigger (which yours aren’t- not at all!)

Post # 17
569 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s beautiful, and once it’s altered to fit you properly, it will be perfectly modest and fine for church unless your church is super-picky.  If they are, maybe some kind of lace over-jacket for the ceremony that you could take off after?

And it certainly doesn’t make you look wide – you have a great figure.

Post # 18
7660 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Please don’t add any panels to this dress, front or back. I tend to be more conservative in terms of dress than most bees, and this dress is in no way revealing, nor inappropriate. It is BEAUTIFUL on you! There is nothing to cover up, and it is perfect the way it is (when it is altered to fit, of course).

Post # 19
4403 posts
Honey bee

I think you look gorgeous, and you were lucky to find such a well-suited dress that you could get before July since most dresses take 6+ months.

Like everyone else, I do not think you need any modesty panels. I also agree that cap sleeves are the worst. Very few people look good in them.

Post # 20
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2020

P.s cap sleeves do limit the range of motion for you arms, so that’s something to think about

Post # 23
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Mackenzie_Wilson :  I’m very conservative in the way I dress as well so I get where you’re coming from. The shrug you ordered sounds like a great idea! And if that particular one doesn’t work out, it’s not the only shrug in the world 🙂


ETA: that’s so pretty! I think you’re on the right track.

Post # 24
3004 posts
Sugar bee

It’s a fairly modest dress.  If you’re wearing a veil, keep in mind that the veil will also cover your back some.  

I hate my upper arms, so I understand where you’re coming from.  FWIW, I think cap sleeves can actually make your arms look bigger, because the edge of the cap sleeve often hits at one of the larger parts of the upper arm.  I think the dress would look lovely with 3/4 sleeves or bracelet length sleeves, though.  

Post # 25
589 posts
Busy bee

That dress is beautiful and it looks stunning on you! There’s no need to add extra fabric, you’ll ruin the look if you add sleeves or a modesty panel. And with a summer wedding, you’ll overheat if your dress covers every inch of your body. That dress doesn’t make you look wide at all. In fact, a V-neck is very slimming; adding a modesty panel there will actually make you look wider.

I wouldn’t do anything to change the design of your dress, I think it’s perfect as is. Of course it needs to be altered to fit better, but please don’t try to cover up by adding more fabric. I’m afraid that will make you look matronly, as the dress is already quite modest.

Post # 26
8 posts

I think once it’s altered to fit you, you will love it. Altering it will make it less revealing and adding a hairpiece/veil, neclace and belt (if you like that look) will be perfect! Your gorgeous and shouldn’t feel insecure about anything 

Post # 27
64 posts
Worker bee

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Mackenzie_Wilson :  you look beautiful and that dress is beautiful. I wouldn’t change a thing. Good luck with your July wedding and congratulations!

Post # 28
2283 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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Mackenzie_Wilson :  I think you’re right. With a necklace it will be perfect. Great idea on the shrug by the way.

Post # 29
569 posts
Busy bee

The dress is totally fine as it is, but I can understand how you will feel more comfortable being a bit more covered up – I’m like you and happiest in sweaters!  The dress doesn’t NEED the shrug or a necklace to make it more modest, but I think both those things would work with the dress, and will also probably make you feel more comortable wearing it.  And the handy thing with the shrug is that you can wear it for the ceremony and then take it off later if you feel you want to.

Just don’t cover up too much – I can guarantee your fiance will absolutely love you in the dress as it is!

Post # 30
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Mackenzie_Wilson :  Hey, this is sooo pretty, there is nothing that you need to do. It is just perfect as it is.


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