Post # 1
I bought what I wanted to be “the” dress for the big day. No doubt, it’s lovely. But the more I see it on myself in the pictures and online, the more I see it as being too vintage-y for my taste. It is from the Essense of Australia line, and I’d found it on my very first day of trying dresses on. It took all of the 90 minutes I was given for the appointment…but I’m honestly regretting the decision now that I’ve seen other dresses. No return policies are hard…but are there viable options for returns at this point?
Post # 2
Maybe posting a picture will give us some insight??
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House
Picture! And a picture of what you expected?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2016 - A View West
i was in the same boat, I had originally bought a dress on my first dress (a-line stella york#6026) shopping trip. I had been there about an hour when i made a decision, I think the only reason I got the dress was because everyone was telling me how pretty I looked and I kinda got all caught up in the moment. I didn’t feel anything in the dress BUT pretty, never had the WOW moment that other brides have. So I ended up looking elsewhere, just wanted to see if I could find something that really WOW’d me and made me feel the way a bride SHOULD feel. AND I did!! 😀 I tried on a Mori Lee mermaid dress and instantly i started to cry, sounds cheesy I know. I ended up buying this new dress and will be selling my original dress. I hopefully can get all or MOST of what I paid for the original dress since it will be BRAND new , never worn Stella York dress. ANYWHO..moral of my story is go with your HEART! if you are not in love with your dress, and you are comfortable with the fact that you may be out $$ if you can’t sell your dress or get what you paid for it, then I say GO FOR IT! you wnt to feel amazing on your wedding day and not have any regrets!!!!! So do what feels right with your heart!!! hope that helps!!!
Post # 6
I did the same thing. I cried when I put my dress on, it was the 6th dress I tried on, and thought that was, it I am in love! Then went to lunch aftermy appointment and thought maybe I should have tried more on, but everyone was like oh no you cried that is it.
After looking at the pictures, and seeing it at the salon a few more times, I still liked it, but knew it was not what I wanted. Unfortunately it was too late, and I had to wear it. I got a ton of comments, and everyone loved it, but I just wish I would have tried more on. AND it was over budget (the stupid lady helping me picked it out and didnt tell me it was $400 over my budget, then another $250 for the belt) And that hurt even more.
Post # 7
Here is the try-on, so the dress is a couple sizes too large on me, but was told that the front hem would need to be an inch longer than what they’d measured me at otherwise they would need to take away from some of the features. I am looking for as long a train as possible in a dress as I love the look but am also not wearing a veil. This dress felt better than the first few I’d tried on in terms of weight and not feeling like I’d be sweating in seconds, but it doesn’t quite move or flow or look the way I imagined. Unless I’m standing on a stool or at the top of a staircase (which I won’t be), the features of this dress won’t be emphasized. The few pictures I’ve seen of this dress on “real brides” also haven’t convnced me that I will be completely satisfied with the purchase.
As sales are final, do any brides here have advice as to where I could tell this one if I truly go with another gown? How successful are brides in selling their gowns, even if they’re unused?
Post # 8
I think you love amazing in the dress! It just needs some alterations. It’ll feel more modern with the right fit. You can always glam it up more with accessories too.
I’d say try a little crinoline or mermaid skirt underneath to emphasize the shape. It’ll also helps keep the dress from going between your legs when you walk to flow better.
A wedding is expensive enough so I’m not on board with the whole selling for a cheaper price to get a another expensive dress. It’s normal to have doubts about a dress until you see the potential.
Post # 9
proudmommybear: Agreed. This dress needs just a few touches to make it amazing. It has great bones. First of all, I LOVE the top. That is so gorgeous, simple, delicate, and unique! I also love the bottom of the dress, so delicate and flowy.
So, I think I would add a belt and a crinoline or mermaid skirt as suggested above. THAT IS IT. DONE.
Post # 10
That’s a gorgeous dress. What a stunning neckline! I agree with PPs…a great belt and a crinoline will make all the difference. You look beautiful now, and you’ll look beautiful on your wedding day too!
Post # 11
I love your dress and don’t think it looks to vintage-y with that sillouette.
Post # 12
The waist needs to be taken in some to give you a bit more shape. The suggestions of a belt and crinoline will do that as well. What’s the back look like? It’s very pretty! I went through this as well (I haven’t bought a dress yet, though). I tried on a dress that made me look very pretty, form fitting, some lace. Out of all the dresses I’ve tried on, about 30, I’ll admit it’s been the most flattering to my figure. BUT it’s not me, and it’s not enough for the dress to look great on me, I need to feel at home. I wear fit and flare dresses in my everyday life (not like mermaid fit and flare. What’s considered ball gown/a-line in wedding speak) and that silhouette is what makes me feel the most feminine and beautiful. You gotta feel like you on your big day! Granted, the best you, but you! So the question is, does this dress feel like you? If not, well, does your budget allow you to buy another one? I mean you can always try to sell this one, but it may not sell right away.
Post # 13
You don’t seem confortable in the picture. Yes it need to be altered but I think you maybe more conforatbale with straps? I maybe wrong. It may need either some more boob suport or a good bra. I’m not an expert on that. The bottom is lovley. You might want to try it with a belt to break up the stomach part I always seem to have anissue with that. Maybe even just a ribbon sash. But I’m not sure what the back looks like. Just a few sugestions. I think it is lovely. Once you see it fit you you will be happy I think.
Post # 14
Do bridal shops sell crinolines or mermaid skirts? Forgive me as I am totally unfamiliar with anything wedding related, but even with my initial dress being “fit and flare” style, a crinoline or mermaid skirt would still fit underneath? I have heard of “hoops” that go underneath the skirts to prevent the material from sticking to the legs and being too insulating.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 15
I initially was against strapless, because I was not enthralled with the idea of having to shimmy the dress up regardless of how well everyone told me the dresses would fit and/or have the interlaced bodice and what not. But this dress has that illusion neckline that essentially made it such that I wouldn’t have to worry about that. I was uncomfortable in that dress and with the others I’d tried on just because I was growing less and less confident that I’d find “the one” that would have the features I’m looking for, and also because the next bride to be was being rather inpatient in the corner waiting for me to hop down and get out of the way…