Post # 1
I just received my 2nd wedding dress for my wedding which I bought online because to be honest, after buying the first one I was somewhat over it, so I bought it online.
(Fiance said that I should have another dress for the reception)
Last night I received the dress, tried it on, and although it fits is actually quite tight. The dress is a size 2 which is my regular size, (I don’t wear tight clothes and a size 2 fits comfortably), so now I am freaking out and need to loose 10 to 15lbs, and our wedding is Sept 28th!
I am not sure how to go about this, as my diet is fairly clean. My diet mostly consist of veggies, salads, fish and meat, (no sugar for the most part), although I have to confess that I do indulge with a few glasses of wine per week, and maybe a few cocktails if I go out in the weekend, but I run 4 to 6 miles 4 to 5 days a week.
What else can I do to loose the weight!? I know I can get a little obsessive when it comes to dieting, so I am trying to find a balanced healthy way to do it
Post # 2
Bridal sizes aren’t the same as street sizes, which aren’t consistent between brands anyways. I’m usually a size 0 or 2 in casual dress, but my fit-n-flare Eddy K wedding dress is a size 4 and fits like a glove.
How do your actual measurements match up with the size chart of the designer? If you didn’t order with the plan to lose weight, it sounds like you may have ordered the wrong size dress. Can you possibly exchange?
Post # 3
It sounds like you are already fairly tiny bee. Just a thought though, alcohol can cause some people to retain a bit of extra water or be a little puffy. maybe try eliminating a week or two and try it on again? I know that can be dificult with all of the celebrations around a wedding but, it may be just enough to give you some wiggle room.
Post # 4
Get the dress let out or purchase in a bigger size… if you’re already a size 2, losing 10-15 pounds is a very aggressive goal. Plus if you lose weight, would the 1st dress still fit?
Post # 5
Get a bigger dress. I’m an 0-2 in street sizing, my wedding dress was a size 8.
Given the tone of your post, Bee, I’m a little worried about you. Freaking out because a certain size dress doesn’t fit, thinking it’s ok to lose more weight when you’re already petite, acknowledging you can be obsessive about dieting – these aren’t healthy things.
Post # 6
Dont let number psyche you out. When I purchased my wedding dress, it ended up being a size 16 and I had to even add extra fabric in the boobage area. I wear a size 8 dress size! I was shocked that they measured me at a 16 but my dress fit me great and I felt comfortable.
Concentrate on the look of the dress and not the number! You sound super small already.
Post # 7
spilledmilk : I agree! It sounds like OP will fit in one dress but not the other- whether she stays the same weight or loses
OP- change the dress, not your body. I mean, do YOU want a second dress or did you get it bc your fiancé told you to?
Post # 8
I havent received the ceremony dress yet. I went to a bridal store to get the ceremony dress, and I the person who helped me ordered a size bigger just in case than what I need it, so that dress will have to be tailored either way.
I don’t think of myself as skinny thought, granted I haven’t weighted myself in a while so I am just ball paking it for the weight I need to lose (I know that if I step in the scale is going to trigger something, and I am trying to keep myself in check). ugh! I am just making myself nuts, and I should just count calories and try on the dress again in a few weeks :/
Post # 9
Bee, you’re throwing up a lot of red flags for me. Are you generally anxious about your weight? The more you post, the more I’m concerned about your body image and relationship with food/weight. Have you checked in with anyone who knows you and sees you in real life as far as whether you could really lose weight and still be healthy?
Post # 10
psyche1978 : “Bee, you’re throwing up a lot of red flags for me.“
psyche1978 : Bee, you don’t need to lose weight. You need to order the dress in the correct size or have it altered so that it’s not as tight. Do not start counting calories. You have no reason to. Have you ever spoken with a therapist about body image?
Post # 11
The last thing you want is to deprive yourself and over exercise the weeks before your wedding. You will be burnt out mentally and physically, and probably be exhausted and miserable on your wedding day. Change the dress, not your body.
Post # 12
You don’t order clothing, particularly formal dresses, based on “size”. Size is a made up concept that has no standardized measure. It is different from clothing line to clothing line, designer to designer. You need to order based on measurements and then you order based on the largest measurement and take in everywhere else (this is especially true on formal dresses – because women are rarely a perfect size anything in all three measurements – chest, waist, hips – and unlike separates you can’t just order separate sizes).
So your mistake was ordering based on what you believe your size should be rather than ordering based on your measurements and the size chart. Your “mistake” ISN’T being too big for the size you ordered. You’re correcting the wrong mistake.
Return the dress. Take your measurements. Look up the size chart for the designer of the dress you want. Order the dress in the size corresponding to your largest measurement and have the dress altered down to the rest of the measurements.
Post # 13
You are fine. Change the dress, don’t try to change yourself. It doesn’t sound as if it would be healthy for you to try to lose 10-15 lbs and you may not be happy with how that weight loss impacts your appearance on your wedding day. You don’t want to be gaunt. Get a new dress that fits you just as you are.
Post # 14
Have the dress taken out. Or buy a new one. It’s clothes’ job to fit us, not our job to fit clothes.
Post # 15
Not only do l think you do NOT need to lose weight (l have seen pics on older posts and you look wonderful) l don’t think you need a second dress anyway. I know reception dresses are a trend but they are not at all necessary and it seems to me you are only doing it because your fi wanted you to.
I imagine your fi is ok with you not wearing one, esp if it’s causing you stress. Just don’t bother with it , sell it maybe, and wear your lovely ceremony dress for the duration.