(Closed) Dress issues – it is continuously “outed” by family to FH

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I buy another dress?
    no - but make sure people know you don't want ANY further discussion in it... : (30 votes)
    53 %
    no - you're being a sensitive susan : (27 votes)
    47 %
    yes - and keep this one a secret! : (0 votes)
    other - please list below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    DO NOT BUY ANOTHER DRESS!! You’ve chosen this one because you love the way you feel in it, and nobody should make you change it. Forget how your future in-laws feel about it, and what they say. This is your day, your dress, and your decision. x

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Nooooo don’t buy another dress!!  Sometimes, people honestly just don’t think.  My friends do that to me all the time.  They’ll be like, “oh honey, don’t worry if you lose some weight, you can just lace the back tighter”, and my fiance will be like, “oh so it laces up the back eh?”  We have gotten to the point where we make a joke out of it.  I told him I’m going to have him draw what he thinks that the dress looks like a week before the wedding just to see how much he got out of what I was dumb and said and what everyone else was dumb and said.  Boys don’t think about it that much, either…he’ll probably forget anyway.  Smile

    Post # 5
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    try not to see them before the wedding,then they cant say anything.they are quite clearly jeolous of the fact that your happy dont let it bother you. be happy that you wont have to live with them when your married and that you are going to look beautiful in your dream dress.xx

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    NOOOO; honestly, that only gives your FH like, 1% of an idea what your dress looks like. There’s no way he can know what the rest of it looks like just because he knows it’s strapless! Just tell them that you love your dress and want it to be a surprise to him on your wedding day so please do not mention it around him again.

    Post # 7
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    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Don’t buy a new dress, you chose this one because you love it.  Your FH might know it is strapless now, but that is all.  I would definetely let all your family know that the dress is off the record until the wedding day!!  I had that conversation with my family…No One is to speak of it!! Laughing

    Post # 8
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @ohheavenlyday: Totally agreed. What percentage of dresses are strapless nowadays–80-90% or so? Just ask them politely not to discuss it in front of FH again.

    Post # 10
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    301 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I know how you feel….Everyone will say in front of me that my sister in laws was amazing!!!!!!! Which it was….but then you kinda feel like….ok but what about mine? And they will say to me, “Oh you look so great, not many people could pull yours off.”  So what does that mean? Not many people could pull it off because it is ugly but somehow looks good on me? haha. anyways, I over analyze what people say. I don’t think you should get a new dress. They are saying that her dress was so beautiful and all but they also saw her on her wedding day all done up with her hair and makeup…..when they see you like that on your day they will forget all about your sister’s dress and only see you. Don’t worry about it. I bet your dress is beautiful and if you feel great in it than that is what matters most.

    Post # 11
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    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    If all he knows is that its strapless then I don’t really  think your dress is “outted”. About 90% of dresses are strapless it doesn’t really say anything else about the rest of the dress. Even if they told you Fiance about the fit of the dress it wouldn’t matter. He still didn’t see the dress and guys are pretty oblivious to that kind of stuff anyways. I really wouldn’t let this worry you, definitely do not get a new dress thats a major overreaction.

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think you are fine. Firstly, most men don’t really know what dress terms mean, so even if your mom had said “With all those pickups in the skirt and the sweetheart neckline beading, I don’t think you need much jewelry”, all your Fiance probably pictured was a white(ish) dress.

    Also, even if someone’s Fiance accidently saw a pic of their dress, it’s going to look completely different on The Day because we will be all made up and glowing, and in the moment of walking down the aisle it will seem new and different.

    As an example– I told my Fiance that my dress is very simple, which it is, so his comment was “so it’s like a night gown with spaghetti straps?” I just laughed. He’s clueless. That’s definitely not like my dress.

    Post # 13
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Do NOT buy another dress!! If you love the one you have and how you feel in it, that’s all that matters.

    I recently showed a picture of me in my dress to a friend and her response was “What a pretty picture!” So, that tipped me off that my dress is not her taste. And you know what, I don’t care because I love my dress.

    Just tell people that you don’t want to talk about the dress because you want there to be that element of surprise when you walk down the aisle.

    Post # 14
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think after my sister got married, all my family said she was the most beautiful bride, and she had the best wedding. I have to give my sister credit, she WAS the most beautiful bride I’ve seen AND their wedding was the best I’ve been to. They, however, have not been to my wedding yet. And I’ve only shown my wedding dress pictures to my mom, sister, BFF, Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law and a few guy close friends who probably won’t remember. I don’t really plan on showing anyone except my mom and sister the actual thing when it arives. My point is, people will always say things like that, because they haven’t seen YOU on YOUR wedding day yet. The bride GLOWS on her wedding day, so maybe after they’ve seen you at your wedding, their opinion will chang e:)

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee

    Just remember, its not a competiion. Everyone should feel happy and beautiful on their wedding day, it doesn’t matter what someone else wore or how they “ranked”.

    Post # 16
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Fies: That is true too, I should add that I noticed that everyone says “she was the most beautiful bride” every time someone new gets married. I went to two of fiance’s cousin’s wedding and everyone said that after the ceremony. In no way am I going to even think about competing with my sister either, because it really isn’t a competition (and I love my sis too much to be jealous of her!)

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