Post # 1
So…I have already bought 3 dresses throughout our engagement (granted it’s been an 18 month long one). I looked physically (albeit briefly) at David’s Bridal and didn’t like anything in my price range ($200-300). That was the only time I tried on dresses at a shop and it was impromptu. I ordered 3 online; returned one, sold one, and kept one I liked enough to wear (BHLDN Niceties dress). I then wanted to buy a sash for it. Well, the sashes I’m finding are $200+ so the originally $240 dress is now more like $440+
Cue my mom…bless her heart. She called me today and said since you’re having to do the sash anyway let’s just get you a more expensive/nicer dress you’ll love and won’t have to buy anything else for. She said she’ll pay the extra and could go up to $1,000 or more. That’s quite a bit of difference from 200-300!!
It’s very tempting..but I’m already stresed and tired of worrying about my damn dress. I do like the dress I have. It’s strapless which I’m not crazy about because of the ladies (I don’t want to be pulling my dress up all night!), but I could always add straps (though again we’re talking more $$). Plus time is ticking as my wedding is June 28th!
I think I’ll go with my mom to check out some Alfred Angelo & Maggie Sottero’s since I’ve never tried those on so I have no idea how they’ll look on me. I’m also around the size of sample size so won’t likely have to order one and my alteration appointment for original dress isn’t until mid-May anyway so I’ll have time to get it altered if need be. The shop I am looking at has openings this Saturday for appoinments as well as lots of other availability so I could do this soon as opposed to waiting months to get an appointment.
Going to try on dresses in a shop may confuse me, but at least then I’ll know. And if we find one we like enough, we can buy without paying too much extra (because my mom will be helping pay). I feel so indecisive and like I’m overthinking things, but the dress search hasn’t been an easy one for me. I wish from the beginning my mom and I just would have looked together in a shop and figured it out then. But, I never thought a dress was a big deal to me and I just wantd to make it simple. I also feel guilty for spending too much on a dress I’ll wear one day. But by trying to make it simple, I made it harder! Live and learn I guess?
Thanks for letting me vent, bees! Any helpful advice or words of encouragement is appreciated!
Post # 2
Skittles131: *hugs* of encouragement!! Your mom is wonderful! I hope you both enjoy the excursion. From what you have written above, you are very thoughtful and I suspect not likely to make a rash decision. I think if you find a dress you really, truly love more than the one you have, you will be happy you went. And if you don’t, I don’t think you will be swayed by the praise-bombing of the salespeople.
And yes, you do just wear the dress one day. One WEDDING day.
Oh, and post photos!! LOL
Post # 3
Just go and try on the samples! I got 50% for buying a sample at a bridal salon so it came out to $400 and it’s basically brand new, name brand, etc. The sample was way too big on me but they are able to alter it down. I’d just go at least look. If there’s nothing you like then stick with the dress you have.
Post # 4
Astra: MrsN14: thanks ladies for the words of encouragement! That makes me feel better because for some reason I felt bad/down about it. Thank you again and I will post photos! 😀
MrsN, I didn’t even think about the fact that samples can be cheaper…woo! I just hope they have some of the styles I like in stock!
Post # 5
I was the same way. I have such a hard time spending money on myself, and was looking at bridal gowns at around 400. My mom got more involved and ended up purchasing one for 1900 that we absolutely fell in love with. I’ve also have an 18 month engagement, and the wedding has gotten a lot bigger and more formal as we went along, so this dress defintiely fits that better. The dress is absolutely gorgoeus, but I definitely feel bad about the money sometimes. It is sooo much for one day, but it is so hard to find a well made wedding dress for much under 1000 (the wedding industry is a bit crazy- you could definitely find highly embelled, well made, beautiful evening gowns out there for a few hundred).
In the end the entire cost of the wedding is really only for one day (not just the dress). I spent more on the dress, so I REALLY cut back on flowers, invitations, and will be doing my own makeup. It all ends up being the same, but I would agrue that the dress is really really important. It is the way the bride feels in a dress which makes her glow, it affects her mood, and her ability to deal with stress. When you look your bests you feel your best and everyone should feel great on their wedding day.
Just have fun with it and when you find THE dress, you won’t want to look at other dresses. Maybe you’ll find it, or maybe the journey will help you realize it is the one you already have.
Post # 6
Are there any shops near you that specifically sell samples? I live in Atlanta and Bridals by Lori (of SYTTD fame) has a special downstairs section where they sell samples for $900 or less (my dress in an Amsale that was originally 4k!). I was surprised to find so many gorgeous gowns in my price range!
Post # 7
Skittles131: Good luck with your dress search!
As another option though, if you like your current dress, and are just missing a sash, you can search etsy for “bridal rhinestone applique” (or pearl, crystal, etc) and buy something that can be attached onto a plain sash or ribbon to make a more blingy sash. The appliques i saw doing a quick search are anywhere from $15 to $50 on up. It would at least be cheaper than the $200-$300 ready made sashes.
For example, this is $12: https://www.etsy.com/listing/127966542/bridal-accessories-crystal-applique?ref=sr_gallery_31&ga_search_query=bridal+rhinestone+applique&ga_ship_to=US&ga_ref=auto9&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery