Post # 1
So as you may know from a previous post, I had a TERRIBLE time finding a dress. My dress budget was less than stellar, and I thought I’d never find a dress that had the expensive parisian lace look without a big price tag. That is, until, I found Maggie Sottero’s “Bronwyn.” The second I put it on tears welled up in my eyes, for many reasons. First, I pictured my fiance’s face when he would see me, and second, because I was so relieved that I had found something I knew I’d be confident in on my big day. I waited to place the order for the dress until I found shoes, so I could give them an answer about length. On my way home from the bridal salon, I sent my sister-in-law-to-be a pricture of my dress exclaiming how I’d FINALLY found THE dress.
This was her response:
“Nice. it looks just like the one I’ve always wanted to wear.”
She then went on to give me a very insincere “You should wear it! It looks pretty on you” but I knew that she didnt mean it.
…Um. I knew her and I had similar styles (we both wanted all lace, vintage look) but I didn’t know that this was her dream dress. She’s not engaged and not looking for a dress, but I still have a pang of guilt about the dress. I feel like it’s unfair that she put me in this position. She saw me struggle to find something, and how does she know she is going to even like the dress on her? We have entirely different body types. I am hurt, upset, but I also feel bad for making her upset.
Note: The picture is terrible- I had no make-up on and the resolution is blurry, but it will give you an idea about how the dress looked!
I love the dress. I find myself looking at pictures of it all the time, and dreaming about getting to put it back on…. What do I do? Do I buy the dress of my dreams, or do I settle to keep the peace? file://localhost/var/folders/rj/vxtmf8td6ps7mjm4nzp4kq5m001qpt/T/com.apple.mail/com.apple.mail.drag-T0x7fbc4b410a50.tmp.MjAmPC/photo.JPG
Post # 3
BUY IT! That dress is beyond stunning on you. She isn’t engaged, style preferences change, and it might not even be something that looks good on her.
Post # 5
Plus by the time she gets married I doubt people will remember that it looks similar to the one you wore.
Post # 6
She’s not even engaged yet!
Get the dress! 🙂
Post # 7
Buy the dress of your dreams. If you FSIL already had this dress, I would understand you not getting. She’s not even engaged. Repeat: She’s not even engaged. Who knows if this dress will still be in production when she’s dress shopping, if she’ll even like it, if a lot of things.
You love it, you love it. Don’t let anyone burst your bubble because you look gorgeous!
Post # 8
This is YOUR day, not your future SIL who may or not get married one day and may or may not wear this dress or one similar. Your reaction when you put this dress on told you everything you need to know about purchasing it. Dont let negative nancy steal your moment, your joy or your shine!
Post # 9
@Bdonohue: Buy it!! It looks gorgeous on you! That was wrong of her to put you in that position, and honestly, you’re the one getting married, not her. You found that dress, you fell in love with it, it’s yours!! It looks like it was made for you!
Post # 11
@Bdonohue: BUY IT! and BUY IT NOW! She is not even engaged yet! She is wrong for telling you that. there are so many dresses that she can wear. By the time she gets engaged, she might not even end up wearing that style dress cuz it may not work for her body type!
You look gorgeous!
Post # 12
Buy it. You are right, you don’t know that she will even like it once she tries it on. My “dream dress” was AWFUL on me, and I had to abandon that pretty quickly. You need to get what you love!
Post # 13
@Bdonohue: Get it. Women who are not engaged, do not get to make you feel bad about buying a dress that YOU love, because it looks like their vision. My ‘vision’ dress is NOTHING like the one I ended up buying.
You look stunning in that dress. Seriously, forget her reaction and just go with it!
Post # 14
Buy it! Don’t let someone who isn’t even engaged guilt trip you out of your dream dress.
Post # 15
Buy it, wear it, rock it!!!! Forget what your sister said.
Post # 16
@Bdonohue: Get it, chances are by the time she gets married the dress “she’s always wanted to wear” will be something different. I went shopping with FSIL last year and she bought a dress that was exactly what I thought I wanted (but I kept my mouth shut and wasn’t bitter) well flash forward to a few months ago when I realized my dream dress was completely different.