(Closed) Dress problem… Fiance hates Lace!!!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There is a HUGE difference between what’s in a store window, on a model, in a pic in a magazine and a happy blissful bride. Take my word for it, he will think you are gorgeous on your wedding day and he will not be focusing on your dress RELAX!

Post # 4
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Guys are weird… they THINK they know what they do and don’t like in wedding dresses. Most of them are traditional so when they picture their woman in a dress, they picture a taffeta princess dress.

I found out my Fiance doesn’t like lace when we were discussing table cloths. He said he hates lace too but I didn’t deter me from sticking with my modern lace dress.

Like KT808 says He is going to think you look gorgeous no matter what!

Post # 5
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Keep your dress! You feel beautiful in it… You’ll look beautiful in it… Your Fiance will think you look beautiful in it… And he probably won’t even remember his comment about lace dresses, if he’s a typical man haha 🙂

Post # 6
4996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Keep your dress. I’m sure he won’t even remember. What matters the most is that you look great in it, and you said it’s perfect for you!

Post # 7
895 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve said it before, and I think I read it on the bee somewhere. On your wedding day, your groom will see you, his soon-to-be wife, love of his life, and best friend, in a dress. A pretty white dress. Nothing more will register about the dress. If you think you look great in it, he will too. Pick what you like!

Post # 8
759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t worry about it…..How many times have you tried on a dress that you thought you would love and it turns out you hated it?How many times have you tried on something that you didn’t really care for and it looked great on you? He will love you in whatever you have on.The most important thing is that YOU feel beautiful in your dress!

Post # 9
150 posts
Blushing bee

@Ej88:  i am obsessed with lace & i’m glad Fiance thinks its pretty too. however, i also love big ball gowns or gowns with a huge petticoats under it.. & that’s the ONE THING Fiance made sure i didn’t do.


with that being said, i still went with a big poof. lol. i have ALWAYS wanted a poofy dress. so if lace is what you want, & you FEEL good & LOOK good in it, i say go for it & surprise him. i bet he’ll love it anyways.


but if you feel too paranoid that he won’t like it, maybe you should look at other options.


he loves you & thinks you’re beautiful. he saw the dress on a mannequin, not you! 🙂

Post # 10
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

They way I look at it is he is going to see you NOT THE DRESS! He fell in love with you not what you were wearing!

I work a new shirt today (HOT PINK and i dont own anything else like it) and I asked Fi if he noticed anything new and he said “UHHH did you do something with your hair?” lol!

If you love your dress keep it. He will notice your confidence and the glow you have by wearing the dress you really love!

Dont settle for a dress you dont love because you dont want to regret it!

Post # 11
162 posts
Blushing bee

Dont worry, it will look completely different on you!!! It is your dress, pick what you love. Guys are usually clueless when it comes to fashion, yet alone dresses haha. He will see you and how beautiful you look in that dress the furthest thing from his mind will be “I didnt like lace”. Dont worry!!

Post # 12
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What everyone else said! Keep your dream dress!

Post # 13
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you had not already purchased your dress, I would say that you should allow your FI’s comments to help sway you in a different direction. However, because he has known that you’ve been planning your wedding and probably that you also have already purchased your dress, and he has never said anything about this before, I really would encourage you to not worry about this.

The one thing that your Fiance was doing with the dresses in that window — comparing two wedding gowns side by side — is something that he cannot possibly do on your wedding day.  Although he may have had a strong preference for one style vs. another when they were right next to each other, he is not going to be remembering what he saw that day when he sees you, his beautiful bride, on the day of your wedding. Also, he has not ever seen YOU in another gown, so he will have nothing to compare to the way that you look on your wedding day.

I believe that PPs are very right when they said that your Fiance will think you look amazing in your dress! 🙂

Post # 14
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m in the same boat! I got an all lace gown that I love! My Fi thinks anything lace looks like his grandmother’s tablecloths.  I think I look great in my dress, so he’ll have to look past the lace.  Maybe I’ll get a pushup bra to distrct him! lol

Post # 15
6375 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Don’t worry about it. Men know nothing about dresses. When they imagine a dress they just imagine a traditional one like they’ve seen before in family photos. They don’t realise how many options there are for ladies now!

Honestly, he’ll think you look lovely no matter what!

Post # 16
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree with the above posters completely who have said that it will all be different on your wedding day. A man seeing a dress in a store window, not really understanding elements of fit and body type and all of the extras that go into it (undergarments, accessories, shoes, makeup/hair, veil..), will have opinions that won’t be there on the wedding day. I agree that if you hadn’t already purchased the dress, then fine, take what he said. But on the day of the wedding he’ll be focusing on YOUR beauty, not that of the dress. 

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