(Closed) Dress problem… Fiance hates Lace!!!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you love your dress then I say keep it. Your Fiance will think you are beautiful no matter what you wear and I am sure he will love it.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Trust me when you walk down that aisle and he sees you for the first time the last thing going through his mind will not be “I hate lace”. And if all else fails…when the reception is over he will just try to get you out of it quicker! Either win …win

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

He’ll get over it. Wear what you love.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t worry about it. He’ll see you on the wedding day and be wowed. ๐Ÿ™‚

My Fiance always gravitates towards “liking” more traditional ballgown type dresses, but bought a fitted lace gown. Then again, he did look at my wedding board on Pintrest and pretty much every dress I pinned was lace – so I think he probably should have gotten a clue from that.

That being said, I feel your pain. My dress is allure, with a gold underlay and ivory lace overlay. At the tux fitting the sales girl kept referencing how if my dress wasn’t white we shouldn’t go with a white shirt. I paused to think about it (FI has no clue what my dress looks like) and Fiance loudly proclaimed “IT BETTER BE WHITE!”. I Immediately started to stress, thinking he was going to hate it because it’s not stark white. BUT, others have assured me he won’t know the difference when he sees it in person.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ok, I’m going to be honest with you, because the same thing happened to me:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/omg-my-fiance-hates-my-dress

I bought another dress. One I thought my fiance would like better. And it looks really nice. But it never gave me the same feeling as the first one and now I’ve had tons of dress regret AGAIN.

I’m sticking with the one that I thought he would like, it’s far simpler and classic, but now I feel like I’ve made a total mess of the dress process as I still keep looking at more dresses wondering if I made the right choice.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I did the same thing as Sunshine09! He saw a pic of the dress in a magazine (not knowing it was my dress) and said “I hate that dress”..hahahh needless to say I got another dress and I’m really glad I did (although my bank account isn’t too happy). I am 100% sure he is going to love this dress, it’s classic but also sexy. I’m glad but I also agree with others that on the wedding day, he is NOT going to be criticizing your dress!!!

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Keep the dress you have. Men have NO idea what they are talking about and the day you walk down the aisle in a lace dress he’s going to laugh and think you look beautiful in it!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I might add that I PERSONALLY wasnt 100% sure on my dress, so when he said that, it sealed the deal for me. Had I been absolutely in love with my dress I would have kept it.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ej88:  Of course that’s not selfish! To ease your mind and recalibrate expectations, I would consider giving him a heads up that you have a lace dress (you don’t have to actually show it to him), assure him it’s gorgeous, and show him pretty photos of lace dresses. Tell him what you told us: you’re kind of freaking out since he said he doesn’t like lace, but it’s the perfect dress for you and you look stunning in it.

Tagging on to what others have said, Fiance and I regularly go back and forth regarding hanger appeal. When we’re shopping, he’ll vetoes several things I KNOW will look good on him and he’ll love… after prodding he finally tries them on and is shocked to discover that (once again) I’m right. This is not a unique experience. Most men are unable to look at something on the hanger and envision it on someone. Your Fiance is probably thinking anything lace will look like something his grandmother picked out. You know your style and body and, as you mentioned, your dress is a better fit for your body than the dress he liked in the window. 

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What’s the worst that can happen? He says, “Sorry not going to marry you, I don’t like your lace dress.” Doubt it ๐Ÿ˜‰

I know it may seem like a big deal now, but he will not care what kind of fabric your dress is on the wedding day. He’s going to think “Holy crap that’s my future wife, in a white dress, walking down the aisle to marry me.”  ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not really sure he will feel the same when he sees you in the RIGHT lace dress.   Honestly guys really don’t know the difference.   Fiance told me what he liked in a wedding dress and I showed him pics of what he was telling me and he said, no like that… which was the opposite of what he was telling me.

My younger nephew says he LOVES Chinese food.  He’s never had Chinese, Its indian he loves. 

I wouldn’t worry, when he sees his dream woman, he will love you in your dress.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I did the same thing hee hee! I knew he hated lace but I also knew he wanted me to be happy:) I got a dress with a lil lace on it. PLUS we went dress shopping together and there were a LOT of things he said he hated and then I tried it on and he’d love it. Guys are like that:)

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

True Story – FI’s only request for my dress was no comforter skirt.  It took me a month to figure out he wanted pickups.  Seriously, guys have no clue.  Definelty keep the dress you love, and your Fiance will love it on wedding day.

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