(Closed) Dress problem… Fiance hates Lace!!!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Ej88:  Wow I could have written this post myself. Only difference is, I did the following thing BEFORE I bought my dress. I asked my Fiance to come dress shopping with me to two stores and pick out different gowns he wants me to try on. This was JUST for the purpose of seeing what he likes/hates on me. We reached the conclusion that a) he absolutely hates lace b) that he LOVES princess gowns on pictures but not on me and that c ) I was always right, I need to go with a mermaid/fit and flare/trumpet style gown. Having done that I just completely ignored lace gowns even though I was SO so so tempted to go for Dakota by Enzoani. I showed him a pic of it and he said “It looks like my grandmother’s curtains”…Nothing I can do, I ended up with a dress with zero lace, but not satin, taffeta (Pascua by Pronovias if you are curious). But when i talked to the sales girls, they said  A LOT of guys say that but when they see it on the girl they love it. So don’t worry, it is always different on you, always. You will have your hair done and make up and he won’t even notice it’s lace, you are HIS bride and you are the most beautiful bride in the world as far as he is concerned, believe me. DO NOT worry !

Post # 33
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ej88:  when guys say they hate lace wedding dresses they’re thinking of the lace from the 80’s–that dress is stunning he’s going to love it

Post # 35
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

OP, we are dress twins.  ๐Ÿ™‚  I just wanted to say that even though I know the post is on a not so happy topic.  I obviously love the dress and I can say that my guy has many times claimed he didn’t like something and once it was on it was his favorite. 

Good luck.


Post # 37
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My DH saw my dress before the wedding In a catalogue and didnt like it and made comments about wedding dresses should be princess dresses but on the day he LOVED it and said it was beyond perfect and couldn’t even remember saying he didn’t like aspects of it. On the day he will be amazed no matter what ๐Ÿ™‚ go for the dress of your dreams 

Post # 38
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ditto PP. Don’t worry. He’ll love whatever you wear on your big day. Just stick the one you like ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 39
10 posts


Try them on and see which one works better on you. You can ask people around for their opinions. If most of them say the lace dress looks nicer on you, then go with it. I believe your Fiance will change his mind.

Post # 40
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If he’s who you’re meant to be with, he’ll think you look perfect in a paper bag. : )

Post # 41
2592 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

@Ej88:  Oh your Fiance and mine must be twins lol! He thinks lace is “old looking” hah! I am wearing Allure 8764 and have ALWAYS loved lace since we got engaged… fell in love with a DB one in 09.They discontinued that one. Then we  re did the engagement part and upgraded my ring and still loved lace:) I dismissed alot of lace ones including my Allure one I have now bc I thought of my Fiance and what he would like. Well I ultimately went to go try it back on and loved it so much and  I am soooo glad too bc I felt the most beautiful in this dress. He will not say ew to you,trust me! Keep your dress. My Fiance only liked one dress I showed him on me oiut of frustration. I would have worn it but just felt like it was not the one for me…sold it(Very long story) and won my current dress!!!!

Post # 42
4 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nyscpa2be:  What’s a comforter skirt & pickups?


Post # 43
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh please, if I told you how many things my Fiance swears he “hates” and then tells me he likes when he sees a similar thing in another dress, you would think he didn’t know what he liked.. which is probably the truth because he admitted at one point that he thinks sometimes that he likes the dresses based on how pretty the model is and that he really wished they would put all wedding dresses on ugly models so he could know if he really liked them.. LOL

So, once your Fiance sees you in that dress and how beautiful you look, he’s going to wish he could take those words back because he’s going to LOVE lace dresses!!!!  Trust me.  You’re going to look beautiful and be confident in it and he’s going to see that and not the lace. 

Post # 44
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m going to disagree with the majority here.  If your Fiance saw a dress similar to yours and he says he hates it, I would recommend getting a second dress…maybe use one for the ceremony and one for the reception if you really love the lace one?  The only reason I say that is because he didn’t just comment on lace after looking at a table cloth or grandma’s curtains.  He said it after seeing an actual wedding dress that was similar to your own.  While yes, I am sure he’s not going to tell you he thinks your dress is hideous, I think you want him to have the “OMG” moment when he sees you for the first time, not “Did she just buy the dress that I told her I hated?”

Post # 46
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

If you are still concerned, you ought to show him a picture of the dress and say that you were thinking about getting it. Since your wedding is about a year from now, he will not remember the picture.

I showed my Fiance my dress. I have a deposit on it. He was like “It’s okay.” and I got mad. He didn’t know I had chosen it. I was like “just okay?” and he wasn’t all that thrilled by it and I was wearing it, because I’d showed him all the pictures I took of all the dresses I’d tried on.

But don’t do what I did, which is, if you get that kind of response, don’t harp on it and wind up telling him that it’s the dress. I have my doubts about my dress and thought about posting it to the board, but I am afraid that bees will confirm my doubts! Isn’t that crazy?

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