Post # 1
So I was engaged before and my mom bought my dress. The dress is a big ballroom gown that would be appropriate for a church. It didn’t work out with my Fiance and I was stuck with a dress and engagement pictures. I recently got engaged and we are planning a destination beach wedding in April. My mom wants me to either wear the dress or pay her for it if I choose to get another dress. I don’t want to wear the dress, it bothers me that I bought it for another wedding, although it has never been worn. Not to mention that it’s not an appropriate dress for a beachside wedding. I think it’s crazy that she wants me to pay her for the dress if I don’t wear it. What do you bees think?
Post # 3
My suggestion would be to sell it and give her all the proceeds from the sale.
Post # 4
There is no way in hell I would wear that dress. Absolutely sell it and give the money to your mom (plus any additional to pay her back).
Post # 5
i would post it in the classified section and oncewed asap! im sure someone will love your dress – i dont blame you at all for wanting another. good luck!
Post # 6
Sell it. And tell your mother that you are using the proceeds for your new dress.
Post # 7
She suddenly wants the money back now that you’re engaged to someone else? If she wants to sell it she can sell it, you don’t want it. (haha sorry that’s rude, but I’m imagining my mother doing this and I would be kinda pissed)
Then just buy your own dress, I’m sure the beachy dresses are less expensive as they have less fabric.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
@StormyRose: Totally agree! There are lots of websites to sell used/unused wedding gowns. Sell yours and give your mom the money.
I definitely think you should not wear the dress. I completely understand why you feel uncomfortable wearing it–it was supposed to be used for a relationship that didn’t work out. And who wants that going into their marriage? Plus, it sounds like it doesn’t fit your vision anymore. You should definitely get a dress that YOU want and feel comfortable wearing on your wedding day!
Post # 9
Sell the dress and use that to pay her back.
Post # 10
To be honest, I don’t blame your mom for not wanting to pay for a second dress. However, I think you should try to sell the first one, and see if she would put that money towards a new dress.