Post # 1
Hello Bees out there,
I need your help.
I got married 1,5 months ago and we had a perfect wedding and everything went well – apart from the cake. But that is another story.
The problem I have is that I have a serious dress regret AFTER THE WEDDING.
I always wanted a classic A-line gown with loads of lace. My fiance (that time) and I were talking and looking at dresses. I asked if it could be a bit tighter and he said yes but please not too tight. So I never tried mermaid gowns on because I wanted to be perfect for him. At the end there was this nice Pronovias Fresno lace gown with an A-line and a WHITE ONE mermaid/ fit and flare gow. The white one had beads allover which I didn´t like at all and it didn´t have the nice lace trim at the neckline. And the most thing why I didn´t go for it was because I wasn´t sure if it would have been to tight – for him. And I ha d the impression that the Pronovias one looked higher in quality.
After ordering the Pronovias one I started looking on weddingbee and saw that loads of girls there have mermaid gowns. That was at the beginning of the year and I was second guessing my dress choice if it wouldn´t be to blaa and not a real shape in it. I didn´t go again trying the other one on because I didn´t want to spent another 1200 Euros and waited. When my dress arrived I liked it but I was sure I wanted it to have tightened a bit at the hips. Looking now back on my wedding pictures I think I should have gotten it even more tighter OR should have even bought the other dress. It would have been even cheaper. The sales lady told me that the beads could be put off. But it didn´t have the nice lace trim at the neckline. But seeing that my seamstress was able to rebuild the lace trim with making a sweetheart out of it, I am wondering every day all day long if I made the wrong choice.
I talked to my husband and he said the dress was like he would have imagined me and he loved it the way it was. But yesterday I started crying over it again. He is really lovely and says it was the right choice BUT would he ever say if it wasn´t???? I think the dress looks perfect from the front but from the side I have the feeling that it looks like “I was an A-line and they tried to make a fit and flare out of it”. I wish I would have taken it in even more to show more of my body or have taken the other dress or at least would have gone back to try the other one on and buy a second dress.
I am thinking about now to go to a store and try the other one on again. But I am hesitating- what would it do? In best case I would be happy because I don´t like it and being happy about my dress and have freedom. In worst case I would see that it was the wrong choice and it would be all make worse. Should I go and try the other one on?
I am feeling so silly thinking like this and that it is driving me crazy. My mind is going in circles and I could start crying just thinking about it. I always try to force me not to think about it but it doesn´t work.
I really need your help, advice and kind words how to handle with it… Thank you
Post # 3
I don’t really see anything good in going to try it on because your wedding is already over. If you do love it, then you’ll just be more upset! I am sure that you were beautiful and if your husband said that you were exactly how he envisioned you, then I think you have no worries! 🙂
Post # 4
I would just take a deep breath and try to let it go. You could buy a dress in a similar style (though short, probably!) and wear it for another big family event. Trying it on now is not going to help you in any productive way unless you hate the dress.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m sure you looked amazing on your wedding day!
Post # 5
I’m sure you looked beautiful!
As there is no rush now, the wedding is over, give it some time and think about whether it really matters to you to try on another dress. After several months, if you are still thinking about this, think about what benefits you could gain from doing so. The only thing I can think of, if you can afford it, is that you could buy that one as well, and get some shots with you in the new dress and keep those as part of your wedding album. Your husband may have a difficult time understanding this, as it would be rather unusual, but you know him best, and he may actually be very supportive if it’s what would really make you happy.
But a big part of me is saying… are you being too perfectionist about the dress? You got married, you have your new husband and your whole life ahead of you…why look back at an item of clothing, rather than forward, at your whole life? What’s the next big step you’re excited to take? Maybe you’re just still caught up in thoughts about the wedding because it was so recent. In a few more months you may realize you aren’t interested in thinking about wedding dresses anymore.
Post # 6
I’d say go and try on a mermaid because it will likely put you at ease that you made the right choice.
Also, I’ve noticed you are in Belgium. In many parts of Europe mermaids are seen as quite tacky, is it not the same in Belgium? I’m quite sure your Fresno made a much better impression on your guests than any mermaid could have.
Post # 7
@joya_aspera: Thank you for your nice comment. I am sure I am way too perfectionist about it. And I know I should be happy with the perfect day and husband and our lovely future together.
Post # 8
Here are 2 pictures from front, I love it and from side not at all:
Post # 9
Hey ..post a pic and we’ll no doubt give you our honest opinion. I have a feeling we will love your dress. You chose a classic/timeless shape – the mermaid would look dated pretty quickly i think.
Post # 10
Ha .. just seen the pictures. It truly is stunning and as I thought, beautiful, timeless and classic. Perfect, you made the right choice x
Post # 11
@mel801: You are so cute!!! Thank you so much. I am feeling really stupid for thinking that way. I got so much nice comments that day and I don´t know why I just think “it was not perfect”. I hate myself for being like that. There is always the what if….
Post # 12
Go try the other one on if you want, but WOOOW you look AMAZING from all sides! That dress is stunning and you make that dress! I think that you have nothing to regret as you are just stunning.
Post # 13
You look beautiful and classy in your dress and it makes your waist look soo tiny! You should not have any regrets – your dress is perfect!
Post # 14
Your dress looks amazing. I don’t see any point in going to put on the other one, especially since your wedding already passed!
Post # 15
Girl, you look like a wedding dress ad- everything about those pictures is perfect! Accept that you looked beautiful on your wedding day, and then go buy a tight (not wedding) dress and take your husband out on a date.
Post # 16
Thank you, thank you, thank you…. you are all so sweet!!!