- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I just wanted to share my experience to reassure brides who don’t have that emotional, crying “Yes to the Dress” moment. Sometimes the clarity is whether or not you can say, “This looks nice. I feel peaceful, and I feel bridal while still looking like myself.”
It’s been a wacky couple of weeks (compounding the wackiness of planning an August 2012 wedding with the full involvement of the groom but no official engagement yet–he’s almost saved enough for the ring), but I found a dress: http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?style=J1367
However, I wasn’t nearly as sure about it when I bought it.
I basically had just one day to try on dresses with my mother (had gone to two places alone before), so I was under a time crunch from both her and the fact that the wedding is in five months. Add to it that I’m grieving the sudden death of a friend less than two weeks ago and it was a rough day. In addition, a work emergency caused me to cancel one of the three store appointments I’d scheduled. Talk about setting me up for dress regret!
My consultant at one particular store was experienced and awesome, and she and my mother both pushed me to the Geneva. I returned late in the day and finally decided as the store closed last Friday, but I never felt 100% good about it while standing there, and every time I tried to tap into my emotions regarding the dress, I ended up crying about my friend.
This Wednesday I went to another store, fessed up, and tried on a bunch of different dresses. They all looked nice and most made me feel like a bride, but I never had that “the one” feeling. I finally realized that many of them made me feel like I was playing a role. In the end, I put on the Geneva again… and I felt peaceful, beautiful and like myself. We found a different solution for upper arm coverage (adding off-the-shoulder sleeves in the same fabric as the dress) and decided on a simpler veil, and I was finally 100% sure.
So, if you’re not the cry-with-joy type, don’t worry. Sometimes the right dress just makes you peaceful and calm. Especially if you’re a high-strung, over-thinking type like me, haha!