(Closed) Dress Regret

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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193 posts
Blushing bee

I think you’ll get some really great advice from the Bees about what to do if you’re sure you don’t love your dress. In the meantime, I’ll tell you that you’re definitely not alone! I haven’t bought my dress yet, so I don’t know from personal experience, but a LOT of brides feel the way you do!

By The Way – even if you aren’t totally head-over-heels for your dress, I think you look gorgeous in it! I especially love the lace.

Post # 4
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

Your dress is beautiful and you look gorgeous in it!

I have dress regret too, mostly because I picked out my dress way too early.  But even when I had my bridals done, I still felt pretty.  I can’t afford to/ran out of time to do anything about a new dress, so I suggest if you are going to go that w ay, do it sooner than later, you are already running out of time.  But your dress is absolutely beautiful!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it is normal to have a little bit of dress regret, especially if you are indecisive like me.  You say this dress isn’t "you"…what about it isn’t you?  You look fabulous in the dress and it is beautiful with all that lace detail!  But if you don’t love it and have the resources and time to get a new one, maybe you should look for something different.  Either way, I’m sure you will look gorgeous on your wedding day! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I’m curious what you don’t like about this dress because it looks beautiful on you! I have a love/hate relationship with my dress. It’s not what I thought I’d pick, but whenever I put it on for a fitting, I get a big grin on my face because I feel like a bride.

What type of dress do you think you would rather have?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Saw, I think the dress is very flattering on you. I also love the lace. However, if you’re not in love with it anymore, I have to suggest talking to the bridal shop you purchased it from to see if there is anyway you can trade it in? OR, if you have the money, you could always purchase a second dress for your reception. I have seen many brides doing that these days. Best of luck!

Post # 8
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119 posts
Blushing bee

The dress is really beautiful and looks great on you.

I think it’s totally normal to have tinges of dress regret. One of my best friends and I got engaged around the same time and we both go through stages of loving and being non-plussed by our dresses. I just think of it as part of the process of having spent so much money and bought so far in advance. What else do you do that with?

Personally, I wouldn’t want to deal with the hassel of selling and re-buying a new dress. As long as it doesn’t look bad (it looks gorgeous) or fit poorly (it doesn’t) then I would stick it out and realize that I will come back around to loving it again soon enough.

With wedding planning there are always so many things to second guess. We make decisions, then see other options and immediately wonder if we’ve made mistakes. But I ‘m trying to trust my initial instincts and know that at the end of the day I will look pretty (as all brides do) and I will get married, which is what really matters in the end.

Post # 9
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368 posts
Helper bee

That dress is stunning, and you look absolutely beautiful in it!!! Maybe go try on some other dresses and see if anything else strikes you, any other designers or styles…. And that might help you see if you really do want to get another dress or maybe it will make you fall back in love with YOUR dress. Either way, you are going to make a beautiful bride!! Best of luck!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I’ve had dress regrets as well but I LOVE the dress.  It fits you perfectly.  If I could get another one, I’d get that one.  What dress is yours by the way?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Your dress is gorgeous! Talk about dress regret – I had a knock off done of a very expensive designer gown and it came out horribly and now I must live with it because I can not afford to get another dress. At least your dress is beautiful and fits you so nice. Regardless of what you decide to do, you will be a gorgeous bride!

Post # 13
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

it’s beautiful!!! dont regret it; you can see it was very well made with attention to detail

its gorgeous!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Seems like almost EVERY bride goes through this!

It’s totally normal.

Try and go back to the day you decided it was the one. You loved it. 

It’s stunning and unqiue and looks wonderful on you. Don’t doubt yourself. It’s a gorgeous dress!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was just zipping through because I had dress regret too! At first, I thought the images you posted were of a new dress you wanted to get. My initial response was, oooh that’s so pretty! Your dress will look amazing! There’s no need to stress! I personally think it’s easy to put too much pressure on oneself to get the one perfect dream dress. There’s just too much out there. You did a great job picking this dress and the proportion fits you perfectly! I went back to three shops to look for a veil and yes, I peeked at the dresses, and no, I still didn’t find anything better than what I had. Don’t waste your time looking or doubting! Of course, you are lucky if this is your only stress, because it shouldn’t be one anymore!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

WOW I love love love your dress! It is gorgeous & you are gorgeous!

I understand how you feel though. I went through the same thing. After I bought it I had buyers regret. My mom also rushed me (she is very impatient). And it was nothing i ever expected that I would buy. The styles that I wanted were not that flattering, according to my mom & the sales people. I also looked at pics of it online, and hated them!

 However, i went and tried it on again, and that helped A LOT! Trying it on made me love it more & feel more like a bride. I always wanted lace on my gown, & the one that I bought didn’t have any. I found a veil that I love – a mantilla – which has tons of lace and it made me love my dress more.

Maybe if you try a veil more in the style that you originally wanted, it may make you happier. Like a bird cage veil or a flower in your hair. Or you could always buy a cute reception dress!

Good luck, with whatever you decide!

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