Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I have been browsing the net for dresses since my Fiance and I started talking about getting married. I intially fell in love with :
I showed my Fiance online and he fell in love with it too! We decided it would be best to buy online because we are on a bit of a tight budget.
So yesterday he basically begged me to go try on dresses. I wasn’t really excited because I have a whole year before the date and I figured everything would be out of our budget and it would be a waste of time. We went and of course all of the dresses were out of our budget but we decided that $1000 would be a good price.
I tried on this dress :
And I fell in love with it too. At the end of the day I ended up getting the first one for $1000 including all alterations.
But now I am regretting not getting the second one. I’m regretting not getting it online. I am regretting getting it so early. I feel so bad I dreamnt about it all night. I guess I am just ranting like a lot of the other brides. 🙁
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
I think that some dress regret is normal because it’s a bit like coming down off of a high, plus once you make the decision, you recognize that you’re giving up all other options–and that includes fantasy options as well!
In this case, I think that you ought to give your first dress a fair shake and work on loving your choice. This is not to say you should suck up and be happy with something you don’t like, but you said that you fell in love with the first dress too, so maybe it’s just getting to know it better. You can’t return it anyway, right? so the most that you could hope to do is sell it, but before you do that, try it on again and envision yourself in it walking down the aisle. Look at your reality rather than the fantasy of owning the other dress.
Honestly, the two dresses are quite similar and both are lovely. And if you want my completely baldface, true, honest opinion…I think the second dress looks a bit like someone didn’t finish the top layer skirt and the petticoat is showing. There. I said it.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I think you are just experiencing a natural reaction to the end of the dress shopping experience. Both dresses look so similar that I don’t think you should worry so much about picking one over the other. Hopefully you will feel better about your choice in time.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I agree with JennyW1. Everyone has a fair amount of dress regret. It’s natural. I even secretly hoped my cats would pee on my dress just so that I could try dresses on again. In the back of my mind though, I know my dress is great. It’s exactly what I wanted, otherwise I would not have bought it! There’s something that made you purchase that dress. Try to remember what that was.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@JennyW1: LOL thank you so much! The unfinished comment made me laugh and actually made me feel great about my first choice! Hopefully once I go for my fitting I’ll be happy again!
Post # 7
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Worker bee
I must say, I really love the first dress more than the second. I think the material is so classy and it really flows better. Remind yourself why you loved the first dress to begin with – it has amazing detail at the top and waist is great! Plus, the pickups are so romantic.
Like the other girls are saying, some dress regret is normal. The dress I ended up picking was nothing like what I set out to buy. That really freaked me out. All the other dresses that I had set aside to go back to see with my mom… well, we never actually made it back to them because I found “the” dress elsewhere and just bought it immediately. I spent a week staring at pictures of the other dresses afterward… but in the end, I know I have the dress I was meant to have.
Just little reminders of why you loved it to begin with will help ease your nerves. 😉
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I agree with the other brides. Dress regret is so normal. It totally doesn’t mean you picked the wrong dresses! When it comes to wedding dresses for myself, it seems the grass is always greener on the other side! I think you made a wonderful choice. I can see why you’d feel that way though, both of them are stunning. Who is the designer? I love them both!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
@beckiesue: It is from Mori Lee – Julietta. I really thought it would be hard finding dresses in plus size but it really wasn’t that bad. I honestly do love the dress and the train is SO beautiful!
It’s good to know that I am not alone on feeling the regret.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I am begining to regret my dress. I think just because so much time has gone by since I bought it, which was 3 years ago. I am feeling like because I am 31, that the dress is too YOUNG for me. Here is a pic from the web and the pic after I bought it.
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Post # 11
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Blushing bee
@BryensWife: I wore that dress to prom in 2005!!! LOL if it makes you feel any better I still love it! And I think it brings excellent luck as I’m now marrying the boy who took me to prom <3
Post # 12
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Helper bee
aww i love your dress let me know if you resell !!!!
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
@bryenswife: I think the dress is gorgeous and you should so wear it if you love it! It’s you and your future husband’s day and you should enjoy it!
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Treat yourself to a day of beauty and then with all proper undergarent try it on. I think both dresses look so similar that either will look good. As a ff woman I know Im much harder on myself than most women who dont fall in the ff dress size that I do. Something ade you choose it, try it on with all your acessories, it makes a difference.