Post # 1
i went dress shopping this weekend and now that I think about it I had a horrible experience And I nam not sure if I still love the dress. it was a sample sale and I wanted to see if I could have any luck.well the store informed me that they had samples ranging from 8-18 and not to worry. The consultant kept putting me in size 8s when I was at least a 12 or 14. She said ” we’ll we really don’t have much, you are full figured and most of our samples are an 8″. It broke my heart, it was the first time I ever tried on dresses and the first time anyone has ever used those words to describe my body shape. She repeated it and I told her to stop and I started crying. she was also upset because she didn’t know that was going to offend me, I foolishly continued to try on dresses because my family was enjoying the moment, and I am scared I settled for something I don’t love just because it was the only thing that fit.
I know I am not the skinniest person in the world, but I wear a size 6 in pants and I have a larger chest (32g) but she just made me feel so uncomfortable in my own skin. I can’t return the dress and now I just feel stuck.
Post # 3
That sounds horrible. Do you have a picture of the dress though? Just because your dress shopping experience was wrong doesn’t necessarily mean your dress is.
Post # 4
The problem is that we live in a materialistic society. A society that propetuates the image of this rail thin woman. It’s every where we look. Magazines, websites, posters on the subway. Because of it, some women have an unrealistic view of how you are suppose to look. It’s especially true when you go to try on wedding dresses. Just because you are a bride, does not mean you have to be a size 4. Brides come in all sizes, big, small, and inbetween. A size six is relatively small. Don’t let it get you down. The bridal sizes are usually marked VERY small. Don’t let the numbers on the tag bring ya down, or a woman that is using the words full figure. Try the dress on again when you have slept off some of the anxiety of the experience and see how you like it.
If you don’t like it anymore, sell it and find something that will compliment every inch of you!
Post # 5
are you sure you can’t return the dress? that might be their policy but once you explain the situation they might understand, it might also get the sales woman in trouble so it’s up to you if you want to forgive her for not choosing her words wisely and making you feel bad, sounds to me she was not the most experienced and tactful woman for the job, if you don’t want her to get in trouble she might be thankful enough to apologize and try to make it up to you or the shop might be more flexible with their policy since you were not harsh on them 🙂
Personally I dislike the idea that I can’t try wedding dresses like it was normal clothes and that stores in the US (I live in Mexico but go there for shopping) make such a big deal out of it, it’s nerve wrecking… then to have someone tell you a comment like when you are feeling so vulnerable is just plain wrong.
So don’t feel bad about it and DO remind them you were told they did have dresses to try on from sizes 8-18 and they only showed you 8’s
PS. sizes don’t mean a thing these days, I have jeans in my closet from size 3 to size 11 and they all fit perfectly! your bust size might give you trouble finding clothes but I am sure you are used to that, my breast size is somewhat big for my frame and my mother has it worse (horrible back problems, that poor woman, getting breast reduction someday) so we are used to buying bigger sizes and then take it to a tailors to get rid of the extra fabric around the waist.
Post # 6
I agree with the PP. Can we see this dress?
Maybe you can return it and try it on at another shop?
Post # 8
The consultant sounds like an ignorant bitch. A size 6 is not full figured, I would even consider you smaller than “average” which is about a 10/12. Post your dress so we can tell you how gorgeous you look!
Post # 10
@aicila: I’m a size 0/2 and I would kill to have a dress that looked as good on you as yours does! Who cares about the stupid label that the stupid lady used!
P.S. Who makes that dress? I’m a Waiting Bee but I’ll have to put it on my list of dresses to try.
Post # 11
It was the strangest feeling… Being so comfortable with my body (Ive put on 20 lbs over the last few year) and having someone try to cram me into a dress and calling me full figured take it all away.
Post # 12
@somethingaquamarine: thank you. that made me fell better, I just think she just made a day that I tried really hard to make great, worse. I was there with my grandparents ( my mom passed away and I don’t have a father) and I wanted to get a dress at here so they could be involved and I preferred to get a sample because then I could just bring it home with me ( they live 4 states away).
Post # 13
@aicila: You definitely aren’t what I would consider full figured… I understand how you feel about being called full figured too. It’s shocking when you don’t consider yourself that and nobody else does… Not to mention offensive! She really needs to watch how she talks to people..
your dress looks GORGEOUS though -and is so flattering. You can really see your shape and you look amazing! If you want to return it because of your bad experience, that’s understandable. But I don’t think you made any mistake when it comes to the dress specifically!
Post # 14
@aicila: say what?!?!?!?!! you;re stunning who cares what they say!!! 🙁 …. for the record i think you are beautiful and rock that dress! I am a street size 12 ish and had to order my dress in a size 16. -concidered very ‘plus size’ in the wedding world. Check it out ! I felt a little bad at first that i had to order that size but when i got it on the first time i loved it so much a stupid number did not matter 🙂
Post # 15
@aicila: What? You look stunning and that dress is lovely! What don’t you like about it?
Post # 16
I’m so sorry that your consultant brought down what should have been a special and positive experience. For the record, that dress looks GORGEOUS on you. And I visited 4 different bridal salons – three of them had mostly size 10 or 12 dresses because they consider that to be a pretty average size that most of their brides are. The remaining did have teeny dresses, and the owner commented on how ridiculous it was. Please don’t give that rude lady’s comments a second thought, because you are beautiful, and so is that dress on you.