(Closed) Dress regret because the consultant keep calling me full figured

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Hostess
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That sounds horrible. Do you have a picture of the dress though? Just because your dress shopping experience was wrong doesn’t necessarily mean your dress is. 

Post # 4
Member
370 posts
Helper bee

The problem is that we live in a materialistic society. A society that propetuates the image of this rail thin woman. It’s every where we look. Magazines, websites, posters on the subway. Because of it, some women have an unrealistic view of how you are suppose to look. It’s especially true when you go to try on wedding dresses. Just because you are a bride, does not mean you have to be a size 4. Brides come in all sizes, big, small, and inbetween. A size six is relatively small. Don’t let it get you down. The bridal sizes are usually marked VERY small. Don’t let the numbers on the tag bring ya down, or a woman that is using the words full figure. Try the dress on again when you have slept off some of the anxiety of the experience and see how you like it.

If you don’t like it anymore, sell it and find something that will compliment every inch of you!

Post # 5
Member
46 posts
Newbee

are you sure you can’t return the dress? that might be their policy but once you explain the situation they might understand, it might also get the sales woman in trouble so it’s up to you if you want to forgive her for not choosing her words wisely and making you feel bad, sounds to me she was not the most experienced and tactful woman for the job, if you don’t want her to get in trouble she might be thankful enough to apologize and try to make it up to you or the shop might be more flexible with their policy since you were not harsh on them 🙂

Personally I dislike the idea that I can’t try wedding dresses like it was normal clothes and that stores in the US (I live in Mexico but go there for shopping) make such a big deal out of it, it’s nerve wrecking… then to have someone tell you a comment like when you are feeling so vulnerable is just plain wrong.

So don’t feel bad about it and DO remind them you were told they did have dresses to try on from sizes 8-18 and they only showed you 8’s

PS. sizes don’t mean a thing these days, I have jeans in my closet from size 3 to size 11 and they all fit perfectly! your bust size might give you trouble finding clothes but I am sure you are used to that, my breast size is somewhat big for my frame and my mother has it worse (horrible back problems, that poor woman, getting breast reduction someday) so we are used to buying bigger sizes and then take it to a tailors to get rid of the extra fabric around the waist.

Post # 6
Member
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with the PP. Can we see this dress?

Maybe you can return it and try it on at another shop?

Post # 8
Member
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

The consultant sounds like an ignorant bitch. A size 6 is not full figured, I would even consider you smaller than “average” which is about a 10/12. Post your dress so we can tell you how gorgeous you look!

Post # 10
Member
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@aicila:  I’m a size 0/2 and I would kill to have a dress that looked as good on you as yours does! Who cares about the stupid label that the stupid lady used!

P.S. Who makes that dress? I’m a Waiting Bee but I’ll have to put it on my list of dresses to try.

Post # 13
Member
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@aicila:  You definitely aren’t what I would consider full figured… I understand how you feel about being called full figured too. It’s shocking when you don’t consider yourself that and nobody else does… Not to mention offensive! She really needs to watch how she talks to people..

your dress looks GORGEOUS though -and is so flattering. You can really see your shape and you look amazing! If you want to return it because of your bad experience, that’s understandable. But I don’t think you made any mistake when it comes to the dress specifically!

Post # 14
Member
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@aicila:  say what?!?!?!?!! you;re stunning who cares what they say!!! 🙁 …. for the record i think you are beautiful and rock that dress! I am a street size 12 ish and had to order my dress in a size 16. -concidered very ‘plus size’ in the wedding world. Check it out ! I felt a little bad at first that i had to order that size but when i got it on the first time i loved it so much a stupid number did not matter 🙂

Post # 15
Hostess
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@aicila:  What? You look stunning and that dress is lovely! What don’t you like about it? 

Post # 16
Member
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry that your consultant brought down what should have been a special and positive experience. For the record, that dress looks GORGEOUS on you. And I visited 4 different bridal salons – three of them had mostly size 10 or 12 dresses because they consider that to be a pretty average size that most of their brides are. The remaining did have teeny dresses, and the owner commented on how ridiculous it was. Please don’t give that rude lady’s comments a second thought, because you are beautiful, and so is that dress on you.

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