(Closed) Dress regret brides. Tell me your second dress story

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Beegritte:  Oh dear, sorry to hear you’re on the dreaded dress regret journey. Glad you have resolved to find yourself something that makes you feel as happy as you should though. After I purchased my dress I definitely had moments where my confidence waivered, but I stuck with it and was pleased I did in the end, so I’m not much help there.

Did you want to tell us a little something about the dress you originally picked, and what you are looking for in your new dress? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I had made a huge mistake ordering a dress from replica  website in January.  Originally i was drooling  over Maggie Sottero Serencia,  but it was not yet available in January, so i took a plunge and trying to save money, ordered Maggie Sottero Sasha from replica store instead.  The dress arrived in early March, but it was so poorly made, it had this rough cheap shiny polyester fabric, instead of organza and tulle.  Also instead of beads it was embroidered with thread to make it look like beads,  and the dress didn’t fit! So i panicked, and tried to contact the seller to discuss this dress,  but the seller did not respond.   I reported the shop to proper authorities and opened a dispute,  getting a full refund and sending the dress back. So i was back at square 1 in March.  By that time Serencia became available in a local store, and i tried it asap.  The rest is history,  thankfully the boutique I ordered the dress from,  put  a rush on my order,  and i got my gorgeous gown in 3.5 months! I’m so glad that i didn’t accept a bad dress and didn’t give up. I’m very happy with my gown now 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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tagerosan:  can you PM me the name of where you ordered the replica dress? I am going to get one made hopefully and don’t want to order from the wrong place. Thanks!!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Beegritte:  good thing you got started early and have time to change Your mind. I’m looking forward to your updates!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I had a vision of what I wanted. Something simple, fitted but still bridal. I really limited myself in the first few shops and whilst I liked a lot I really struggled to find anything that made me feel like a bride. 

 one shop I went in to convinced me to try on a lace dress. I’ve personally always been pretty anti-lace for a number of reasons but I put this on and felt like a bride. It was amazing – it had the fit and flare style, it had a train and it felt heavy and structured and bridal and I bought in on the spot.

That whole day I walked around in a bubble feeling like the happiest girl in the world but then I woke up the next morning with a horrible sense of dread. I tried to rationalise it for a few days. But all of a sudden I just couldn’t picture myself getting married in that dress. Nothing else about my wedding made sense with that dress so I panicked and went and tried on quite a few more over the next few days – nothing made me swoon but I could t shake the feeling so cancelled the dress. 

i was so lucky and only lost $150 for changing my mind – the shop is the only shop in Australia (or maybe NSW) that allowed a 7 day cooling off period. So lucky!

i laid of the dress hunting for a while and when I started to look again I restricted myself to dresses that I could envisage myself in. People told me I was mad because ‘everyone ends up in something different to what they expect’ but i stuck to my guns and after about 70 dresses in total (wow!) I found the one.

it was everything I hoped for in a dress – or at least it will be after I’ve had my way  with alterations. I went back and tried it on 3 times over the course of 2 months before I bought it but I knew it was the one because I’d stopped lookiny for other dresses!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Dress regret is the worst! I fell victim to it as well.  

I started out dress shopping and fell in love at a Sample Sale with Claire Pettibone Beauty but got greedy and wanted to wait one more day for the price to drop and the store called me to tell me that it had sold to another bride that was less greedy and didn’t wait.  So, I kept shopping and I got wrapped up in all the emotion of dress shopping and my dad being there and bought a Hayley Paige Conrad dress.  I loved it, at first.  But I couldn’t stop dress stalking everything Claire Pettibone.  It must have been fate, but I stumbled onto another Sample Sale and there it was, another Claire Pettibone dress, but not Beauty.  This time is was the Gladys dress, which fits my wedding theme a little better and I absolutely love on me.  So here I am, with 2 dresses and trying to get rid of one.  Oddly enough, selling a wedding dress is much harder than I thought.   

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I bought a second dress and I’m so glad I did. My first was beautiful when I tried it on but I gained a couple pounds and just didn’t feel beautiful in the dress. It seemed like it was accentuating my belly too much. It’s still a beautiful dress but it just didn’t flatter me as much as I wanted. I agonized about it and felt so guilty and wasteful even thinking about buying a second dress but end the end I did and I’m so happy I did. I found a beautiful dress in a more flattering silhouette used for $300 on Tradesy. The original dress would’ve needed about $300 in alterations and the second dress was already altered to my height. For me, it was absolutely worth it to buy a second dress. Hopefully I can sell the first one

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I bought my first dress because I got caught up in the moment. I actually bought it before I was engaged, which wouldn’t have been a problem, IF it would’ve been the right one. But I bought it because the lady that’s like my mom cried, I kept trying to convince myself that my Fiance would like it better than what I wanted, my 15 yr old girl dreams were actually happening in that moment and because I wanted a dress right then for a very special reason. The dress is gorgeous and fits me like a glove, but it wasn’t what I wanted.

I really struggled with it for like 8 months. One of the main reasons I struggled so much and didn’t want to get another one was because I had taken pics with mine and my FI’s late grandfathers before they passed (the reason I wanted to get it before we were engaged.) I told my bff that I was really struggling with the dress and didn’t love it, but didn’t want to sell it because that’s what they had seen me in. She told me that my pawpaw would want me to love it and be happy with my choice. As soon as she said that I listed it for sale because I knew she was 200% correct.

I shit you not, right after I listed it, my new dress came on SYTTD ATL and I knew it was the one for me. I called Bridal’s by Lori first thing the next morning and made an appointment for the following week. I dreamed about the dress alllll week and when Sunday came and I finally saw it, I started jumping up and down and acting like a crazy person. When I tried it on, I didn’t care what anyone else said (my bff went with me and loved it). It’s completely opposite of my first dress, but it’s more me. It’s not like anybody else dress and I knew I was doing it because it was what I always wanted, not what everyone else wanted me in. My new dress fits my personality so much better and also is more fitting for our beach wedding. I’m pretty much obessed with it lol. It just came in the other week and I can’t wait til May to wear it!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

So, my first dress was realllllllly gorgeous…but not for me. Firstly, I have always wanted to wear a short, lace, 3/4 length sleeve, off-white dress. I found the PERFECT dress on Modcloth, but when I showed it to my mom, she said it looked “cheap” and reminded me that we had an appointment at a salon with my sisters the following week, so I pushed it from my mind. I wanted my “in-store” moment with my bridesmaids and mom, so I knew I didn’t want to just order it online and I could not find a single dress like what I wanted in any store. So, instead, I went to a store where I saw a really pretty dress at a bridal show. 

I got caught up in the moment because my mom and sisters were with me (my sisters don’t live near me so if I didn’t get it that day they wouldn’t have been with me). Also, my grandma was dying of cancer so I knew she wouldn’t be able to see me in my dress otherwise. My mom ALSO surprised me and offered to pay for my dress. So, with all of that in mind, I kind of got caught up in the moment and selected the dress that I had seen at a bridal show. It was Allure 2701 and I will still admit it was very, very gorgeous, just so not what I had in mind. 

However, as soon as I got home, I felt like I had made the wrong choice. I kept looking longingly at dresses that fell more in line with what I had always wanted. I also kept looking at the Gilded Grace dress on Modcloth almost every single day. Finally, I decided to just buy the dress and (hopefully) put it out of my mind. However, as soon as I put it on, I realized it was my dream dress. For about three weeks, I felt really torn because I had two dresses now that I loved. I eventually confessed to my mom that I had dress regret and wanted to sell my original dress. She consented and I could not be more pleased!!!

Original dress:

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New dress:

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Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2022

I bought my original dress because it fit what I was looking for (simple and A-line or ballgown) and with a belt it looked awesome and I had ideas to add to it etc…and it was at the DB $99 sale. It fit perfectly and I felt like a bride in it…but I hadn’t gone shopping with my mom, and both she and I were kind of upset about that even though she knew I was going shopping without her.

So I went shopping with her, and found a dress that I like 100x better that she also likes 100x better that is more fun and more “me” if you will. If I had been with my mom when I got the first one I might not have had dress regret, but going shopping without your mom is a bad idea if you’re even a little close with her (at least IMO).

Original dress:

New dress:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_strapless-tulle-ball-gown-with-beaded-satin-bodice-9nt8017_wedding-dresses-gowns-%24400-%2479999

(Sorry, it won’t let me upload a pic of me in the dress…the file type “isn’t allowed” even though it was downloaded onto my computer just like every other pic, but whatever. I ordered it in ivory, not white, and now in the W sizes, just a size 12, but the “regular” size pics really don’t show the dress at all which is lame.

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