Post # 1
I am so guilt-ridden about this dress situation, I don’t even know where to begin. I looked back at the pictures taken in March when I was trying on dresses and I HATE my dress. I can’t even explain it… I feel like I was drunk or something when I made the decision that this was my dress. I think I was tired of trying dresses on, I had my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, Maid/Matron of Honor and three bridesmaids with me and it was a very emotional experience, so I just picked the dress I felt most comfortable in. Looking back at the pictures taken that day, there are TWO other dresses I think looked better on me, that just weren’t my sample size, so I wasn’t comfortable in them.
I’m totally kicking myself for not taking more time and trying more dresses on. I paid $1,100 for the dress out of my own pocket and I’m dreading wearing it and I feel like a moron for that. Like, how could something that costs that much not be good enough for me?
My first thought, since I have the time is to try to find a great deal somewhere. Like, a sample or something that I can have altered to me. But then, what will I do with my dress? It’s not a popular dress and I feel like it’s so ugly that no one else would even want to buy it from me and I’ll be stuck with this $1,100 dress that I’m too much of a brat to wear.
I just feel so guilty for having dress regret. I swore it’d never happen to me. I feel like a brat and I wonder if I’d ever feel completely content with my choice of dress or whether my issue is my own body. Has anyone ever felt this way?
Pics for reference (not fishing here… I really don’t think there’s anything anyone could say to make me feel better).
These are two other dresses I tried on that day that I wasn’t comfortable in, but now think I looked better in:
And here’s the one I chose:
Post # 3
I think its a beautiful dress and you do look great in it. I think others would buy it if that is the route you decided to go. I definitely don’t see it as you are being a brat by any means. Maybe you could try selling it on here…many ladies may have never even have seen the dress out there anywhere and think it is great! Good luck in whatever you decide!
Post # 4
I agree with the previous poster. I am actually having a little regret myself but my actual dress hasn’t even came in yet. I would try to sell the dress you have and see if I could find one of the other two dresses on preowned wedding dress.com or even on here. Or I’d see if I could find an inexpensive sample I liked better. I’m sorry you are having to go through this, I was tired of trying on dresses also. I chose my dress because I didn’t want to spend too much money and come off as high maintenance. However, I really like it. Just hope I feel the same way after it arrives.
Post # 5
I actually think that you look amazing in the dress that you chose. It makes your waist super tiny!
I do however understand dress regret. I did the same thing. I visited 2 different salons the day I purchased my original dress. I was super tired after trying on about 20 dresses and just picked the last dress that I tried on because it looked good on me and I wanted to go home! I felt like I was taking up too much of everyones time. After looking at the pics I decided that I HATED that dress and it did not fit the formality of my wedding…not in the least bit.
I put down a HEFTY deposit and the bridal salon where I purchased refused to give me a refund (because they had already placed the order) but they did provide store credit. None of the gowns that I liked were within my price range and I felt sooo defeated. Thought that I was going to be stuck with that dress. I searched and searched for 4 days striaght through their racks and finally found a gown that I liked. I don’t LOVE it (I always envisioned myself in a lace gown and the gown I chose is Satin) but I do like it a whole lot and hopefully once I am in my full bridal get up I will eventually love it.
Have you tried on your gown with a veil (if you plan on wearing one) and jewelry of any kind? It makes a world of difference.
Whatever you decide best of luck to you..I know what you are feeling right now and am sending virtual hugs and well wishes!
Post # 6
@csteen85: BTW who is the designer for the dress that you chose?
Post # 7
Have you tried the dress on since you bought it? It’s so easy to get obsessed with looking at your photos when you’re waiting for your dress. Sometimes a trip back to the store to try on the sample can cure dress regret. It worked for me!
Post # 8
@MrsRedPumps: Thanks for the kind words :). I feel less like a brat after hearing others are going through similar.
All the dresses I tried on were Kathy Ireland for Mon Cheri.
Post # 9
I’m a pretty blunt person and when I saw your pics (of Dress #1, with the tulle and lace corset thing) I thought “Well, I can see why she has dress regret, that is very trendy”.
Then I realized that is one of the dresses you did NOT choose and your ACTUAL dress is that classic ballgown at the bottom. Have you lost your mind? That dress is incredible. It is elegant, timeless, SUPER classy and will look gorgeous 20 years from now, which is not something I would say about the other two.
You will never regret your choice in photos. If I was your size, and was looking for a dress, your dress is EXACTLY like something I would choose. You will have no problem selling it to a bride who will see it for the class act dress it is. That dress looks like “old money” as we say in the South. You could not have done better!
Post # 10
Believe me, I understand dress regret. I’ve been married for three years, and, when I watch SYTTD (which, by the way, I never even saw until after I was married), see some of the other bees’ amazing dresses, and look at many of my wedding pics, I still often have dress regret.
You are asking yourself some really good questions. Would there really be ANY dress that you would, for certain, love? And, do you really want an $1,100 gown sitting in your closet?
For the record, I love the first dress you posted. It’s beautiful. However, I also love the gown you chose! It’s quite elegant and very sophisticated, and the fabric and overall design are luxurious and rich looking (it reminds me of a Kenneth Pool.)
Although you may not LOVE your gown, it is very stunning, and I think, when all is said and done, you’re going to look fabulous on your wedding day!
Post # 11
@Miss Leopard: “That dress is incredible. It is elegant, timeless, SUPER classy and will look gorgeous 20 years from now, which is not something I would say about the other two. You will never regret your choice in photos.”
Post # 12
@Brielle: Totally agree.
OP, I understand dress regret too…..I SWORE it wouldn’t happen to me, and, well…..I wouldn’t say “regret” exactly but yes, I should’ve gone with my first choice instead of getting swayed by others’ opinions. In the end, I was very very lucky to be able to switch my dress (which, by the way, won a landslide poll amongst the bees) to my dream dress, which now sits in my closet. Will some people think I’m crazy? You betcha. Will my mom make disdainful comments? Perhaps. Lucky for me, I could care less. I’m head over heels with my NEW first dress choice and have no regrets.
I think the dress you chose is lovely, classic, timeless and elegant. If you wear it you will be a beautiful bride. But if you hate it, you should at least explore some options, since you have time. For the right price, you will be able to sell it and recoup some of your expense.
Post # 13
I had a bit of doubt while I was waiting for my dress to arrive. Once it came in, I knew I had made the right choice. So my advice is to wait for it to arrive & stop looking at those pictures!
By The Way, it is a great dress & you look fantastic!
Post # 14
I am not trying to make you feel better but i love your dress! Out of the three pics it wins hands down!
Post # 15
I think the dres you choose is beautiful… I love the way it looks on your body… it slims you and fits well. I almost bought the first dress I think but when I went back to try it on and had it on for more than 10 mins the appliques of the flowers scrachted my upper arms. Your dress is beautiful and I think we all struggle a bit with the choices we made and have a little dress regret? I used to think the same thing I was so unsure of which dress to choose, now that my dress is finally here… I am in love. I sometimes waiver thinking oh that one looked better on my body in the picture just because it actually fit at the moment. Not fitting in a sample makes it a tough choice for many of us.
Post # 16
@csteen85: I think the dress you chose is gorgeous and will look amazing with a veil. Like others said, that is a timeless, elegant, classic look that will never go out of style. You look amazing in that dress btw.