Post # 1
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Sugar Beekeeper
Ummm… yah… so… I might be one of you. A dress regret bride. I had such a long dress searching journey (good thing I started early) and finally picked one and had it made by Jasmine’s Bridal Shop since there were some things I didn’t love about the original and wanted to change. They did a great job, especially on the beading, but the dress is just SO BIG. It’s heavy and full and thick and I can’t imagine trying to move around and dance in it. It’s also really big size-wise since my mom insisted on adding a bit to the measurements, so it needs a fair bit of altering. I’m swimming in it.
Basically if I keep and wear this dress, we have to do a bunch of altering (which looks very difficult considering how the beading and bodice are), and I would probably want to take it off to really enjoy the reception. I would still want to wear a “wedding dress” and not something short/simple since I’m still the bride, damnit! But I don’t want two dresses! I don’t want to look high maintenance, I don’t want to spend time changing, I just don’t want to.
So… if I need another dress, maybe it should just be the one dress. And maybe I should put some more thought into which silhouette I want – turns out I don’t want to be big and poofy and sticking out everywhere. I think it’s just not me. I’m already really tall, I don’t want to feel huge too.
So girls who switched dresses… did you get something very different from your original? How guilty did you feel? I can definitely afford to scrap this dress but I just feel stupid. 🙁
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
Wow sorry… didn’t realize how long I rambled!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
@Pinkmoon: I felt pretty guilty. In fact, it took me a long time before I was able to tell anyone else about it, and especially Fiance. He was kinda mad at first but eventually he accepted the fact that I was gonna get a different dress. Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law were kinda judgemental, but nobody looked at the new dress and at my old one and said that I should have stuck with the old one.
They were different silhouettes. My first was smaller a-line, shorter train. My second is a dropped waist ballgown, tulle, longer train. I felt my first dress was too small for my wedding, in a beautiful and huge church. Also my second has a corset which is what I wanted. Here are some pics to help… My first:
My current dress, with both personal and stock photos :):
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I am so glad i was able to get rid of my first dress. I felt so much better on my wedding day having the dress i really wanted.
First Dress:
My actual dress:
Post # 6
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@aranel1002:
@sweetpeony:
Oh my goodness ladies both of you made the right call. Your second dresses are perfect and definitely show stoppers. Way to listen to yourselves and go for it.
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
@sweetpeony: I love your second dress! Was it the Gemma?
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Mine was different. Original dress was A-line, 2nd dress (LOVE!) was ball gown!
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Post # 10
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Worker bee
@Pinkmoon: girlll…thats funny we have the same situation. When i went dress shopping i had an idea in my head of a gorgeous fitted classic lace dress..i ended up buying the topaz just like you. dont get me wrong, its a gorgeous dress. but i kept having dress regret thoughts that wouldnt go away!!! i never wanted a poofy ruffly dress its just not me. Long story short i came across the lace dress of my dreams and it ended up being in my size so i was able to buy the sample. i immediatly felt so relieved! it was what i always pictured myself in. and it was totally meant to be!!! i only have 5 weeks until my wedding and i came across my dream dress a week ago!!! no alterations needed just getting it bustled as we speak. Go with your gut. you want to feel beautiful on your wedding day and if poofy isnt for you then look for something else. i couldnt live with myself knowing that i would regret my dress choice.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I went from a huge ball gown princess tulle to slimmer mermaid cut. I think most girls dream of being a princess but it just seemed not me….
BEFORE
AFTER
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@NVMox2480: Oh wow! I remember loving your first dress. But that 2nd dress is AMAZING!!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@NVMox2480: Totally different styles and you look great in both but the second one shows off your figure alot better! Good choice!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@NVMox2480: this confirms to me that I shouldn’t get a ball gown (in a good way) sometimes I think I should have..
