Dress regret help

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think your dress is beautiful but I totally understand the dress regret having experienced it myself! There was a nine month period between when I ordered my dress and it came into the store and in that time I talked myself out of it numerous times and nearly bought a second dress. All I can say is the advice my Dad gave me, if you really love the second dress (and its within budget) go for it, if it’s what will make you happy!

Post # 3
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

i love your original dress! and i’m actually not a huge fan of the lace sleeves on the second dress. You made the right choice! 


if you’re worried about it being boring, consider dressing it up with a shoulder necklace or a back necklace after the ceremony or doing a down side swept hair or something. There are so many options! 

Post # 4
206 posts
Helper bee

I feel like the dress you own and the dress you are looking at are fairly similar in style.  How did you feel about your dress after trying on the jackets/boleros?  It seems once you add that to yours, the overall style will be similar to the second dress.

I may be a bit biased though, because I’ve had my eye on the second dress you posted.  I agree with the previous poster, take some time to decide what you really want, and if it is within your budget maybe get the second dress that you love.  You could always sell your first one to minimize money spent.

Post # 5
595 posts
Busy bee

It looks like your dress should be a bit higher up on your body, like it has slided down a bit. That’s an easy fix. The dress itself? Beautiful. Nothing boring about it at all!

Post # 6
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

kris277 :  I think you look beautiful in your original dress, what is it that you don’t like about it? Jsut the fact that you think it’s plain? I think the beading on the dress and the way it’s draped doesn’t make it look plain in my opinion.

If you have the money in your budget to buy the second dress, maybe buy it and use one dress for the ceremony and one for the reception so that you can have the best of both worlds but I think once your hair/makeup/jewelry is on you’ll change your mind about the first dress 🙂

Post # 7
580 posts
Busy bee

I think you look beautiful in your first dress. I would love to see a close-ip on the detail of the front. I absolutely love you hair up as you have it in your photo.

I agree with other PPs, you can buy a lace topper for your dress, or something like a shoulder necklace.

Check out BHLDN and check again on David’s Bridal. Depending on where you are you can also look at some more local bridal stores or Lovely Bride.

Post # 8
767 posts
Busy bee

I love the way you look in your dress.

but, if you aren’t happy, then maybe you should explore your option for the other dress if the new dress is what you really want. As for the dress you have, if you think it’s boring, then see about adding accessories or maybe a lace jacket to it.

if you can return your dress and get the other, do that if you really want. if it was me, I’d just see what my options were, see if a lace jacket is a option to add to your existing dress Lace sleeves is what you feel is missing. I’d just add some accessories and see if that would do the trick.

Either way, I think your dress is beautiful!

Post # 9
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I agree with PP that the dress you bought and the one you’re looking at are very similar. Neither one is blingy, they are both elegant, timeless dresses.

Has your dress been fitted? It looks like the bust might need to be adjusted. But it is gorgeous on you and I love the veil you are wearing with it.

Post # 10
1293 posts
Bumble bee

I prefer the first dress, but I’m not the one who has to wear it so…do what makes the most sense for you emotionally and financially. Lots of women experience dress regret. Some move past it and some take the hit to the wallet in order to buy a dress they love more. So whatever you choose you’re not alone. 🙂

Post # 11
120 posts
Blushing bee

You look beautiful in your original dress! I think that there’s so much talk of over the top wedding dress designs and details (everything wedding related actually, hello Pinterest!), that it’s easy to get confused or feel pressured to do more for the sake of doing more. Honestly I think a lot of those details will look dated in even a few years and in my view, nothing compares to a beautiful, simple, and timeless design that flatters your assets, which your dress does! Your shoulders are gorgeous and I think the other dress would hide that. It also looks like you have a delicate build, which this dress complements so well. There are some dresses that would make your guests note how cool/pretty/interesting your dress is, but I feel like with this, your guests would comment on how beautiful YOU look as a whole!

Post # 12
3060 posts
Sugar bee

kris277 :  Your first dress is much, much better. The soft ruching below the waist is lovely, and is not a usual detail. I wouldn’t recommend adding a lace bolero. Ironically, I think the second dress is somewhat dull.

The first dress has a modern and sleek vibe to it and would look wonderful paired with earrings such as these:

From Ross-Simmons:


Post # 13
3947 posts
Honey bee

Somethng about your orignal dress reminds me of Audrey Hepburn in “My Fair Lady” when she appears in her white sheath style gown and everybody gasps.

I think you could well elicit the same response.

Post # 14
62 posts
Worker bee

Heck no–your collar bone/neck/upper shoulders are a beautiful feature for you, and you would be totally covering them up with the second gown. You have very elegant lines–the first dress plays to them. Initial instincts were correct–maybe go for a more impactful earring and a bracelet.  Love!

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