- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Ok so I posted back a couple months ago about having bad dress regret almost immediately after saying “yes!” For those who didn’t see my original post here it is: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/said-yes-to-this-dress
I was deciding between 2 gowns and wound up making a decision on one of them. I purchased a Saison Blanche gown that I thought I loved. I went home that day, took an afternoon nap (dress shopping always drained me lol) and I woke up with an immediate sense of, wtf did i do? That night I had a family friend halloween party and was with my parents who were so happy I finally made my decision, telling everyone how gorgeous it was yadda yadda yadda. I went to sleep that night thinking maybe I’ll feel differently in the morning. My late Grandma, who had an amazing fashion sense, came to me in my dream and told me I made the wrong choice! This was October 27th, 3 days later Hurricane Sandy blew through my hometown of Staten Island and literally demolished my family home. Our home was 4 houses up from the water so beach front property. The house had upwards of 5 feet of water (saltwater, sand, mud etc) inside of it. Once the Hurricane came, my family and I were left with extreme devastation. We lost everything except our bedrooms on the second floor. The dress was the LAST thing on my mind for the next 2 weeks. During those weeks we were gutting the house, heartbroken at the realization of everything we lost, but keeping in mind we all evacuated and were alive, unlike some of our neighbors. This post isn’t about the hurricane, but it plays a huge role into my situation.
Long story short, the first night I wasn’t crying or extremely sad and actually had a normal dinner, relaxed after the storm, my thoughts of dress regret came back. As soon as my mind wasnt occupied, it was still there. I looked at the pictures of myself again and still wished I had chosen the other gown. I told my cousin, who’s my best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor (who was with me for my dress purchase) over facetime (she could see in my face how upset I was) and she told me we should go look at the other gown. She said if you still have the same feeling talk to your parents, but if not you never have to say a word and it’ll stay between us. I felt extremely guilty even thinking about myself while my parents have no home left and have so much on their plate. Thankfully my best friend’s parents bought a 7 bedroom house and had 3 empty bedrooms so we’re all safe and sound. But I also knew that a bad feeling about my wedding gown is a horrible thing. My cousin and I met at the bridal salon (a covert operation, hoodies and sunglasses) to try on the other gown and I immediately knew I needed to have it! She absolutely loved it too. So now it was 2 weeks after I purchased the Saison Blanche gown and I didn’t even know if my parents would get their deposit back or not.
I called the salon and they told me that usually cancellations have to be done within 2 days, but since the storm happened they would glady refund us! They were unbelievable! I spoke to my mom who was thrilled because she loved the other gown more! My father was so overwhelmed with everything from the storm that I needed to wait for the right time to tell him. I wound up telling him a few days later and his exact words were (laughing) “You’re crazy, but i love you more than words.” So the next day my mom and I went back and i said YESSSSS for the second time, but it felt like the first because I was ecstatic!
I felt the need to write about this because I was so grateful for all of the support all of you gave me last time and needed to come clean I am absolutely thrilled and cannot wait for my dress to come in. The sample in the photo is a size 12 and I’m a size 0, but had to order a 2 lol Thank you soooo much for all of your input, it is and always will be much appreciated! & my parents are coming along (mentally and physically), house renovations have begun and we are all putting the pieces back little by little. The house should be ready to move back into by Feb/March (fingers crossed) Christmas won’t be the same this year, being that all of our senimental ornaments are gone, but we’ll make new ones! Gotta keep everything in perspective XOXOXO
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